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writes:Hi. Just wanted to know whether love is fickle. Allow me to go into slightly more details! If a woman receives a love letter from someone she fancies, she may well like him even more - correct? If the very same words came from someone she does not fancy then she will tend to like him less (e.g. be 'creeped-out') - is that also correct? I've sent a pseudo-love letter to a woman at work and am keeping my distance just in case she does not feel the same way about me. I reckon I won't be able to go near her until Xmas! If she approaches me in the meantime then I guess we're up and running! I've been keeping my feelings for her under-wraps for a good few years but felt that I had the right to express them. So, by acting aloof and keeping my distance I am hoping to keep myself scarce and therefore an attractive commodity to acquire! Hopefully she will relish the challenge, or she will be glad to see the back of me. Anyway, I'm just curious as to whether a woman can find a pseudo-love letter touching even if they do not fancy the sender. Funny thing attraction - we are both uncomfortable in each other's presence. I much prefer when she is not in the coffee area at work at the same time as me - even though I like her very much! Anyway - that's enough waffle from me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): ...she knows I'm interested because of the letter, sent after a good few years of working very occasionally together. "Forgot" to mention that she's married and I have children. No wonder there have been mixed messages from my side - caught between doing the right thing and giving in to temptation (the latter appears to be winning). Still, I can relax since the ball is in her court as of my letter and if she never hits the ball back over the net then I can live with that since at least I have declared my feelings for her and therefore have no more cards to play...Many thanks for your replies!
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 First, what's a psuedo love letter? Second, if you like this woman then you need to find a way to be comfortable in her presence and find ways to show you that you like her. For me, when a guy avoids me and acts aloof around me I figure he is NOT interested and I would never pursue someone like that. The world is still biased on who should do the asking and most of you guys would prefer to be the hunter so if you continue with this aloof behavior, you will never be together with this woman.
You should also know that if leave the chasing to her she will eventually decide that she'd rather have someone who is halfway interested in her. I don't necessarily think a guy who is chaseworthy is a good thing.
Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2008): Personally I feel uncomfortable if somebody I am not romantically interested in says they are in love with me, simply because I feel bad and I do not want to upset them! But I don't think she well be 'creeped-out'. Who knows, she may be feeling exactly the same way! Either she will be pleased that you have made the first move and confess her own feelings, or she will say she is touched by your letter but just wants to stay friends for now. Although she may appear a little awkward around you if she does not reciprocate your feelings, it will soon be forgotten! I don't think you have anything to lose!x
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