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writes:Heyy ok a few weeks ago a girl I liked asked me for money not alot about £20 now my best mate and one of her friends think that she will keep on asking for more until I cannot give anymore. I am slightly more in the money than she is but firmly believe that she wouldn't do this but I cannot stop thinking that she will. I'm worried and don't know what to do, any advice will be much appreciated Thank you
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (5 September 2010):
RIKI93dw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeyy again my best mate keeps saying I should still talk whether I trust or not and it's doing my head, sorry but can I ask for some opinions again please
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (3 September 2010):
RIKI93dw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk will do thanks guys
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (3 September 2010):
 Why don't you tell your friends that you thank them for their concern but you need to come to your own conclusions about your girlfriend and whether or not she has some form of motive. Stop telling people about her asking for money, then you won't get grief from them about it. And if she hears that you're telling everyone you know she's asking for money, it'll make her feel really embarassed! There is the possibility still that she's totally innocent here.
I know you know you trust her, but you have to make sure SHE knows, don't make her assume anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Don't worry about what other people say about her make up your own mind about her.
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (2 September 2010):
RIKI93dw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry I sound like I'm losing it sorry, I think the world of this girl and now people are saying this about her I can't take it and I don't like it is all
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (2 September 2010):
RIKI93dw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I do trust her the thing is it just feels like the more people I tell the more I think I'll keep getting the same thing as what my mates are saying. What should I do should I put there opinions behind me and stay true to her or do I stay cautious when ever she asks for money or any other help again from now on or is there anything else that I'm missing
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (2 September 2010):
I wouldn't because that'll make her think you trust your friends more than you trust her. This may be the case at the moment because you're unsure of what she's after, but don't let it show. She may still be genuine. xxx
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reader, RIKI93dw +, writes (2 September 2010):
RIKI93dw is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShould I talk to her about what my friends are saying even though i do believe that she wouldn't because she considers me a friend and she's too much of a friend to me for me to think these things should I talk to her about it ???
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (2 September 2010):
 I think you should stop worrying. If she does ask you for money, say she can borrow more when she pays you back what she already owes. She may sense that you fancy her. If she keeps coming back for money, say no.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Have you ever heard the phrase "Neither a borrower not a lender be" Pretty much as a rule it's best not to lend money to friends, it can lead to trouble.
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reader, 0occoo +, writes (2 September 2010):
 If she does, she doesn't deserve someone like you. I know it'll be hard but Just say no, or say you've got no money. If you don't like to lie, just be up front and tell her what you feel about the money situation. Good luck.
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (2 September 2010):
It's hard to tell what's going to happen in the future. This may have been just a one time thing. What made your friends come to this opinion about her? Does she have a reputation for getting money out of guys?
Why not let her get away with that first time, but the next time she asks, make sure she knows she has to pay you back. If she doesn't pay you back but keeps asking for more, say no, not until she pays you back for the previous time. If she gets in a strop and doesn't want to stay with you, chances are she was only there for the money. It may have been she was a little short on cash that one time. We can't predict the future! Just see how things go :)
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