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Will she forgive me and give me another chance?

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Question - (11 February 2009) 4 Answers - (Newest, 12 February 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Can anyone help... my wife and I recently split up because I was drunk one night and ended up in bed with a man, the thing is I can't remember how I got there. Since we have split up I've told her all the truth, that I have been having these gay feelings for a while now and thought I could control them but obviously I couldn't. She is devastated! Do you think there can ever be another chance for me to get her to forgive me and give me one more chance?

I have started to go to counseling to sort myself out, I just wanted to know if any of you females would give your partner a second chance. It has never happened before and I was so drunk, I can't even remember how I got there. When I went to counseling they said it would be better to bring my wife and have marriage counseling, will this work? I really hope so, I miss my wife so much, can she ever forgive me? Any answers would be great thanx

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2009):

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Thanks for your answers i have an active sex life with my wife and i dont see a man in the street and fancy him if anything i like atractive woman am i gay or just sex mad

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A female reader, lillypilly Australia +, writes (12 February 2009):

lillypilly agony aunti think your definately bi-sexual and its not fair on your wife that you do not only have eyes for her. wheather it was a male or female, you still cheated on her. i dont think she should forgive you, once you cheat on someone, you'll definately cheat on them again, it will just be a matter of how long you can control your self, drunk or not. xox

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A female reader, Plexi United Kingdom +, writes (11 February 2009):

Plexi agony auntof course there is a chance she will forgive you but do you really think its a good idea that you 2 get back together? why not come out and be who you are supsed to be and just remain friends with your wife. no offence hun but no woman wants to be married to a gay guy. i love gay guys, they are great as friends,etc but gay guy+straight woman do not equal solid happy marriage. just ask her to forgive you for repressing theses feelings al this time and tell her that you love her and she will always be the only woman for you but you need to be yourself. a friendship is all you can ask her for hun. forgiveness of course, to take you back? not realistic:(good luck:)

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A female reader, KickRox United States +, writes (11 February 2009):

KickRox agony auntWell, yeah I understand why she'd be devastated. Not only did you wake up with another man, but you're confessing to her that you might be gay.

I strongly suggest that you both go to couple's counseling. This might help a whole lot. That way you're both face to face, discuss your feelings, and take it from there. Just be honest!

Also, I think you'll not only discuss this incident but find out that there might be other issues you both need to work on for this marriage to continue.

Best of luck! And keep me posted.

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