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writes:okay this is going to sound stupid...I am 15 and 16 in a couple of weeks. Okay i feel propar low my ex split up with me and i got over that but still miss him been around every single ex i have been with has cheated excapt him. Also i hear other girls say they lost there viginity and question me if i have when i say no they seem supprised and laugh about it. I havent even had a first kiss yet. I dont feel pretty also i am shy and unconfident and not many lads seem intrested in me infact none. I cant make a relationship last long and i always get hurt in them and all i want is to be with someone in a long happy lasting relationship. Will i ever get the right guy? Am i too behind from the rest? How do i build my esteem and confidence up to talk and meet new people and feel good about my self?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for those who have given me advice
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (24 July 2012):
1 - Dont rush to lose your virginity. Many girls who already have will try to make you feel like you need to as well. Ever hear of the phrase "misery loves company?" Its something you can only do/give once, and once you do you can never get it back no matter how hard you wish you did. Take your time.
2 - You're 15. The "right guy" for you is at least 7-10 years down the road. Live your life and learn before you rush into anything. You are barely out of childhood, you need to grow and learn. Then you will be in a better position to decide upon a man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2012): There's no need to rush into anything you're only young, concentrate on your education and future.
The right person doesn't come along everyday, so why rush into anything with just anybody.
Ignore those who laugh at you because they will be the ones that have three children screaming round their ankles at 20 years old, while you're making a success of your life, then who's having the last laugh :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for your answer i will think about what you have said
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2012): Finding the right guy should be the least of your worries right now, concentrate on your education and future.
Ignore the fact that other girls laugh because you haven't lost your virginity, you seem like quite a sensible person, where they will be the ones trapped as single parents with multiple kids at the age of 20 because they think they're smart and clever losing their virginity and concentrating on the wrong things right now.
Take your time, you have the opportunity to shape your future in a positive way and not end up on the wrong path, there's plenty of time to settle down with a guy, and besides its not every day the right guy comes along so why rush into anything with just anyone?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 July 2012):
 Don't rush to lose your virginity, once its gone its gone forever, too bad if other girls laugh, maybe its the only response they have.
There is no magic formulae for getting a boyfriend, you need to be friendly and sociable, approachable and open to new people.
It takes a little practice, but that's what your teen years should be used for, to find your feet and then work out where you would like to go with your life. A few stumbles along the way are normal. Consider the boys you have met so far mere stumbles, and learn from them.
Stay true to yourself and enjoy yourself. Good luck!
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