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*ennwom1982
writes:Big problem, complicated situation. The wonderful man I was seeing for 5 months has been hurt by two girls in the past, he was engaged and almost married to both. When i came along, I had gotten divorced and been away from my ex for 1 1/2 years. He treated me like a princess and that made me want to do anything for him, and I did, and I am madly in love with him. I have two childrena and two weeks ago he said that he needed some space to figure out what he wanted, that I was perfect in every way and I did nothing wrong but he still cares about me a lot and wants me around to hang out and just be there. I am so confused, I let him into my heart reluctantly and it was the best for me. Will he realize that he really loves me and get over this fear of me hurting him? Or will I lose him because his fear is over powering?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Give him some space and wait and see what he says. He may be petrified of getting close to you because of his past and he needs time to maybe realise that you aren't like his exs. If you feel he is taking too much time then ask him to come and talk to you as you cant hang on forever as it isn't fair on you or your kids.
Good Luck
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 hi
i think this guy is just full of his insecurities that he cant even see a good woman in front of his eyes. you did well loving him and all because if he decides he doesnt want u anymore u will have no regrets. he is the one who has to fight his fears in order to make a relationship work. so give him all the space that he requires. but look for reassuarance if u guys will have a chance or it might not work so that u know if u have to wait while he make up his mind or u can moveon with your life without feeling like he wasted your time in the long run. because this " you are perfect in every way" is just not enough to make u wait. good luck
Jovial
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