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*eatachi
writes:Okay, so my boyfriend has been kind of acting really weird around his friends, but he seems completely normal when he's talking to me, and I'm afraid I might have something to do with it, since he has been spending a lot of time with me, and less with his friends. I can't complain, but it worries me that he's acting so strange. What should I do? Should I ask about it, or just wait and see? Reply to this Question
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reader, stina +, writes (21 June 2007):
 Hi again!,
Hmm...well, I think it's time you and your guy had a chat. Let him know how you feel and that you're worried he may be acting strange because of you. Let him know that you think everything is okay and that you don't want to set limitations on who anyone sees. I think maybe what is going on here is that there is a misunderstanding of some sort. I think once everything is out in the open and you two are honest with one another about the circumstances, then things will get better. It never pays to hide things from one another, you know?
Sometimes things can get weird between friends and partners. But if you keep communication open, then there will be less of a chance for problems to occur. During the talk with your boyfriend, I would see if he feels comfortable if the both of you had a chat with the friends who are involved. That way everyone can be on the same page and all of this misunderstanding one another can finally be resolved.
Do you think something like that would work? Afterall, since you two are together, you should feel comfortable talking about this sort of thing, right? Friends can be a little more touchy, being that it seems like they were his friends first. If that's the case, maybe it would be best if he had a private chat with them and let them know that things are cool. Does that make sense?
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reader, reatachi +, writes (21 June 2007):
reatachi is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hello Stina =]
well, his best friend says he's been really worried about doing something to make me mad [which is weird, I've never been angry with him. as a matter of fact, I rarely get angry at all =/...], and he's been refusing any invitations to go anywhere. And one of his friends forwarded me a message demanding that a picture be taken off of that friend's myspace because it was of hima nd a female friend [a mutual friend, at that] standing together at a school dance. I wonder if he's afraid I don't want him to be with his friends, but most of his friends are friends of mine, too, as a matter of fact his best friend introduced us...
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reader, stina +, writes (21 June 2007):
Hello reatachi,
I think most guys are like this. But what do you mean he has been acting really weird? Wouldn't it be better for him to act like he's your boyfriend instead of him acting like he's your friend? I guess I'm just kind of confused about what you're asking. Can you be more specific?
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reader, reatachi +, writes (21 June 2007):
reatachi is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm friends with most of his friends, which is why I noticed it, and why one of his friends said something to me about it. I just don't spend much time with them.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (21 June 2007):
 I guess they are his friends, not yours.
So why you worry how he acts with them.
Do not even think of it unless you wanna befriend any of them.
Or maybe that is what you want? - It is not clear from the qt.
"I might have something to do with it, since he has been spending a lot of time with me, and less with his friends".
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