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writes:I'm a bit confused...recently met this guy offline and we met once, had one excellent connection and have been writing and texting daily..We live about 200 miles apart.He came on very strong and showed great interest, we also have such a mental connection, that he can finish my sentences for me, and I for him.We both couldn't believe our similarities, it's amazing how in tune we are with each other, only having met once.My question is why would he suddenly turn distant after showing such an interest? We have even went so far as to get intimate verbally. I sent some pictures, that were somewhat sexy but didn't show anything, and he was so thrilled, now I feel that perhaps I made a mistake going with what I was feeling at the time, and expressing my interest.So should I play the emotianally distant person to keep someones interest or just be myself and go with what I 'm feeling? I have always thought that being yourself was the best way to be with someone, but it seems that it's not working.....Any ideas why men act this way?Thanks for your feedback
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both. I couldn't choose a best answer, as they were both helpful and gave me some insight...which in turn gave me the courage to just ask. Was nervous because I know how the Man cave works and didn't want push the situation, but all in all, I got the answer to my question.Well it seems he can't handle the long distance thing and is trying not to get anymore involved emotionally...So we have agreed to remain friends, and although I am sad I am relieved that isn't something I did, and I am glad we can remain good friends..it will be difficult if he does meet another person, so I will just take it day by day and leave it to the fates....Thanx again...PS: Yes, you are right "I could never be anyone other than myself"..got an F in acting class!
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (22 January 2011):
 I agree with Aunt Honesty. There could be lots of reasons why he is acting distant. Perhaps he is busy with work or has some other obligations to meet. Ultimately, I think you need to talk and express your concerns that you sense him drifting away a little and see how he reacts.
Also there is a problem with communicating by text is that it leaves a lot of information out about what's really going on. You really owe it to yourselves to talk on the phone or at least via web cam -- that way you can pick up on verbal / manual social cues.
Either way, I think it's up to you to get more information out of him about what he is thinking. There really isn't enough information here about what's really going on in his head.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 January 2011):
 Be yourself, always be yourself no matter what, never change yourself for anybody as some day you might just lose who you really are.
Ok so he became distant which does sound quite strange as to me it sounds like he was really in to you. But many things may have happened and you need to get to the bottom of it. Just ask him straight out why he has become so distant. There may be a logical reason for it. Next time you are talking to him ask him. He may be just very busy or amybe something has happened in his personal like. Or maybe the distance is getting to much for him, there is a big huge list of maybes involved here and he is the only one that can answer so talk to him. Also how well do you really know him, ask yourself could it be possible that he is married and his wife has uncovered the truth? Your best bet is to ask him straight out why the distance and see what he says. Goodluck.
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