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Why would a dumper complain to an ex about their current relationship?

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Question - (30 October 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 November 2011)
A female Australia age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My mum's friend was married years ago. He retrained as a teacher and she put him through school. After he finished he dumped her out of the blue. No reason, just cut her off. She went to his parents house, but they slammed the door in her face. He had turned everyone against her. No one would even talk to her. He filed for divorce. They had no children.

Decades later he shows up at her house, unannounced, out of the blue. They had tea and coffee and talked. He proceeded to complain about his current marriage which was falling apart. Why would someone do this? They hadn't seen/talked in YEARS. My mum's friend isn't a marriage counsellor? Why do people do this? She deserved so much better this this douche bag.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011):

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Thankyou I dont why she let him in for. I wouldn't have been so polite if it was me.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (30 October 2011):

Honeypie agony auntWhy? Because it "works" for him. He seems very selfish honestly. Like the world revolve around HIM and what he feels/needs.

Hopefully your mom's friend will see what a loser he is and stop talking to him.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (30 October 2011):

aunt honesty agony auntIt sounds to me like he used your mums friend to get through school and then just dumped her as soon as he got what he wanted. Harsh and cruel yes but that's what it sounds like. He moved on with his life and got married and now that he married for real he is hitting a rough patch and my guess is that he is thinking back on how he treated your mums friend and he regrets the way that he treated her in the past. I guess he wanted to get back in contact with her, and tell her how miserable his life is now. Maybe he realises he made a mistake using this poor woman and that in actual fact he did have feelings for her and feels bad now.

However the way he treated her was terrible and I think she needs to be strong enough now to tell him where to go.

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