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writes: ok so this is hard and its really bothering me. im 15 and my boyfriend is 18. we have only been together for about 3 months but we have sex almost every day. a lot of the time its as much as 3 times in the same day. no exaggeration. he refuses to wear a condom, even tho we have talked about it. he says he doesn't feel anything when he wears one. now im not going to lie, i never insisted and MADE him do it so im not trying to act like a victim. but im not on the pill or anything and all we have been doing for birth control is pulling out onto my stomach or back. but about 2 weeks ago, he almost didnt pull out and some of "it" got inside me and on my thighs. i asked him why he didnt pull out sooner because hes always been pretty good at knowing when to do it but he said umm..i forgot i guess. no biggie tho. youll be fine. even if u are pregnant then i wont even have to worry aboutt pulling out. I really dont feel like hes taking this seriously at all. i am supposed to get my period 2moro but i dont feel it coming (i usually can tell bc of bad stomach pain) and i have been having headaches and threw up a couple times in the last couple days because im worrying i guess. how do i get him to take this seriously?? he wont listen to me when im telling him that im worried. he just says im overreacting and that im probably not pregnant. what do i say to him to get him to take this seriously? and is would it be a good idea to ask him to buy me a test??
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): it is always a good idea to test yourself. there are outher reasons that you could be missing your period such as the stress over worrying over it. if you want him to take you seriously then you should find out first if there is anything to be serious about.
and on a differnt note you can get pregant without him actuloy finishing inside of you. there are outher fluids that come out before he finishes that could contain sperm. so some form of birth control is realy a must.
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reader, DearCassy  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Why are you even with this guy?He's an adult dating a minor and he's having sex with you every day.He's just using you for sex and he doesn't even care enough about you to use protection.You need to dump him.First,ask your boyfriend to get a pregnancy test for you.If he won't even do that,then he's no good.Sit him down and talk to him seriously and tell him the last half of what you told us and don't let him brush it off as some joke.If he won't take it seriously
or man up,then you'd be better off without him.You should definitely get a pregnancy test before you tell your parents anything.Get a reliable test and if it comes back positive,then tell your mom,and try once again to get it through your boyfriend's head.Your parents will be there for you if you're pregnant.If you're not,then I suggest you stop having sex,or be a thousand times more careful.If you're not going to stop,then get on birth control,and unless he's willing to wear a condom every time,you say no.Hope I helped.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): First of all, he (an 18 year old adult) shouldn't be having sex with a 15 year old teenage girl, he could and should go to prison for it! Secondly, he doesn't respect you if he refuses to wear a condom, because even though he pulled out most of the time, you can still get pregnant from pre ejaculation fluid. And last of all, he's fully aware that you could be pregnant but he chooses ignore it because he doesn't want a baby, and in all honesty, he'll probably walk away if you are pregnant. I think you should go and get a pregnancy test from your doctor, and get your first prescription of the pill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): The two of you have already decided to get pregnant. Now it sounds like you are.
Happy?
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