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writes:hi i am 14 nearly 15 i have been with my bf for 1 year and 5 months, he moved away a few months ago and i dont know why he doesnt reply to my texts, he`s never here any more, he aint loving or here for me any more. i ask him if its over he says no and that he loves me, i dont know if he is telling me the truth as he ignores me most of the time, my mates tell me to let him go and that long distance relationships dont work but i cant, i love him too much what shall i do? and if its over why wont he tell me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2011): Aww hun.I know what you are going through. I was seeing a guy recently, and he suddenly stopped contacting me, and hasn't responded to any of my texts and phone calls. I bumped into him in town last week, and i asked him if i had done anything wrong, but he said i hadn't. He asked me who my two male friends were, who i was out with too, so it made me wonder if he might have been jealous ?. He said he would call me the next day though, but he didn't. It's so confusing !.His friends said that he told them that he thinks a lot of me though.He has two jobs now though too, but i dont know if that's anything to do with it. He told one of his friends that i had done something wrong a while ago, but i didn't think what i did was too big a deal. He hasnt actually told me that he want it to be over though.The way i see it, i think it can be one of two things . Either men have lost interest or lost their feelings when they do that, and don't have the decency to let you know, or, like other posters here have said, it could be that they still care about you, but has difficulty saying that, because they don't want to hurt your feelings. I hope in both of our situations, it's that they still care about us, but don't want to hurt our feelings . It's really hard, but i have to try not to contact him now, since he isn't contacting me. I think you should do the same, and keep yourself busy as much as you can doing things that you enjoy. If he contacts you again though, you can try and sort things out with him. Good luck !.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 June 2011):
 He may feel the same for you as you for him, but at your age it's going to be nearly impossible to make an LDR work.
He may not want to hurt your feelings, he may not know how to tell you that it's not working being so far apart...
I doubt he's lying to you but it's just so hard to do an LDR...
Maybe you guys can continue as friends and yet give each other permission to be available to new experiences with others if they arise...
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reader, lightandshadows  +, writes (13 June 2011):
Long-distance relationships are harder than close-distance relationships as time spent together will be less. However, they could work if both partners are interested in making that extra effort.I think you should talk it through with your boyfriend (ideally face-to-face; if not possible than over the phone) and tell him how you're feeling. Explain that you feel he is being distant (not only physically but because of his not answering your texts, and ignoring you). Tell him that you are finding the situation hard and that if he really loves you, then he should pay more attention to you. I don't think you should hold this conversation via texts or chat, because writing can often be misunderstood, more than speech.As for why he won't tell you, he might have several reasons. But perhaps he, too, doesn't want it to be over because he cares for you. Maybe he's having trouble understanding how to make your relationship work.Good luck!
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