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writes:Hello,I met a new guy almost two weeks ago. We've gone for coffee and talked for several hours, walked the dogs, had dinners, lunches, watched movies and have spent a lot of time together. We are both mid 40's. We get along well and definitely have chemistry, attraction. The only kissing we've done has been pecks on the lips, no tongue, although he did touch my breasts one time. And he initiated phone sex once also but I ended that because that was too soon. But I didn't make a big deal about it or scare him off from kissing me. I really want to kiss him. I've told him that and he said we will. I even tried to slip him the tongue once and he pulled away. I've asked if I have bad breathe, no. He said he likes how things are going. He also gave me a Valentine card that said "let's make out".So how long do I wait for a kiss? I am in good shape, attractive and I know he is attracted to me. He always says that he is fat and that I am thin and in shape. I have told him that I like how he looks and that I am attracted to him. He is divorced and has had girlfriends. I know he has experience. I understand taking it slow and I like that but after spending a good 7 dates together over the past 2 weeks, shouldn't he want to kiss me by now? I've never been with a guy like this so I don't know if this is normal. I am usually the one putting on the brakes.How long do I give him? When is this considered weird? I don't want to forced, ruin or make a big deal out of this. It will get weird. Am I making too big of a deal? Kissing will also let me know if we have a connection. If we don't feel it, i'd rather know soon than later. How should I proceed?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 February 2015):
 When my ex-husband and I were married we were swingers.
We had ONE RULE... NO KISSING other people.
KISSING is intimate... sex can be intimate as in making love or it can be sex as in swingers... and FWB and ONS....
Most prostitutes wont' kiss either.... it's way more intimate than any other sexual act....
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (16 February 2015):
 I agree with Janniepeg - "let's make out", touching your breast and phone sex suggest sex is all he really wants.
You can stick it out for longer, if you want - but, if you do, ask him directly *why* he won't kiss you, but will touch your breast and initiate phone sex.
Personally, I wouldn't keep dating a guy like that.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 February 2015):
 He wants the physical side of things while you want a boyfriend. When he says "let's make out" in the V card I would think he's more interested in having sex than getting to know you. So not kissing you is to avoid that kind of emotional connection. Even if he's not a kisser, which I would be disappointed, he should demonstrate another kind of affection. Be a good hugger then. He touched your breast instead so I think sex is all he wants.
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