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writes:a guy I'm just friends with will never cuddle with me after we sex..we talk everyday, chill and stuff,but I've known him 5 months,so why not hold me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): Some guys have trouble showing their emotions. They are scared that they might end up looking stupid. I hope that answers the question. It's just a possibility. One worth considering. It might not mean that he is trying to be rude or insensitive. He might be embarrassed in some way about showing emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Your relationship lacks any emotional attachment i e youre not in love and neither have any bonding feelings. Respectfully, dont expect to get cuddling when you just hookup with a guy ur only friends with. Thats something youd find in a real couples relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): It's the same reason my fwb doesn't cuddle with me. We aren't together. Because we aren't in a relationship, cuddling just isn't what is required. He can be your best friend but he still wouldn't want to blur the lines of emotional intimacy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2010): Could be he doesn't and doesn't want to have an emotional connection with you. I had a FWB before and he never cuddled with me. When we decided to try a relationship, he still didn't cuddle. Then he eventually broke up with me and told me he never loved me. I can honestly say he wasn't trying to be mean...he was finally being honest. Basically I was just there for his physical needs and there was no emotion whatsoever.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Men are not natural post-coital cuddlers. Sometimes those that are in love do cuddle those they are in love with post-sex, but even that is rare. You may want to talk to himand explain your feelings.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 maybe because you are "just friends" he doesnt see the need to, or maybe he just sees you as a convienient receptacle for his bodily fluids, and who hugs and cuddles receptacles.
If you want hugs and cuddles go find a proper boyfriend, one that is okay with the whole romantic hugs and cuddles thing, and give this one the flick!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 Because you are just friends. He doesnt care about you like that, and wont cuddle.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Have you ever asked him to hug you? Men aren't really in tune with a woman's needs until she tells him what they are. If you want to be hugged, ask him to hug you. He won't be able to read your mind.
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (24 September 2010):
Well if you're in a friends with benefits situation, he might not want to blur the line with cuddling and holding, since that's more of a thing you do with a significant other. Also, I know my guy gets really hot and sweaty after sex, so if we cuddle it's a little bit after and not too close because it's too hot for him.
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