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writes: My BF is a group fitness instructor. I take his classes.I am not sure if is paranoia but why all of a sudden - within the last month or so - does this woman in who also takes his class seem very jealous of me and competitive around me?She never used to be and she's been taking his class for a long time.She does not know for sure I am with my BF as we keep it professional at the gym. But perhaps she has heard it through the grape vine? She's married by the way.Not sure how to handle this.Can't put my finger on it and it just seems odd.She actually makes me feel uncomfortable in classes. I am just not sure why the total turn around? She used to talk to me and be nice to me and now hardly says anything and gives me certain looks. Women will understand what I mean by a jealous look.I don't think I should be made to feel uncomfortable by this woman in my own BF's class.What should I do?How should I handle it?Any ideas why she is acting like this towards me?
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reader, ova-valentine  +, writes (17 January 2016):
 Obviously, she has her eye on your boyfriend and she's found out that you and him are together. I agree totally with Ivyblue. Don't let her ruin your day just ignore her. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2016): Cause she sees you as a threat. You outshine her in some way and she can't stand it. This happened to me the other day. I ran into some male co workers at a bar and they were talking to a group of females they had met at the bar. Naturally I sat down with my coworkers and joined them for a drink. The girls they'd been talking to started to become snide and make condescending remarks at me even though I was minding my own business and simply catching up with my co workers. My co workers noticed it too and we all commented on it after the girls left, none of us really understanding why they were antagonistic toward me. All I can deduce is that my entrance took attention away from them. They got jealous. Same as with you. She realized something or you got attention that took away from her and she is jealous and sees you as a threat. Like others have said, let her wallow in her misery. Not your problem.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (17 January 2016):
 Chances are she has found out that you and her new found eye candy are an item. Think of it this way, you have him she does not and her behaviour, if this is the issue, rather school yard and that from a grown woman embarrassing. Fob her off as she does you and let her get a rise out of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2016): Have you asked before? Is this the bf that despite being with you for 2 years won't tell people he's with you?
It could be she is jealous you are his girlfriend, the only person allowing the awkwardness is you. You should care less about what she thinks and just ignore it. Be confident, whatever is her problem is HER problem and not yours. Let her carry on being miserable and rude and you just carry on enjoying the classes and being happy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (16 January 2016):
 Just scratch her eyes out, and, then, get on with life....
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (16 January 2016):
 I'd ignore it. Just keep being polite and civil towards her. Whatever chip she has on her shoulder is HER issue.
Or you can ask her ( not during class though) what's up with the attitude. It really depends on what kind of person you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2016): My boyfriend is a personal trainer and I felt this happen with a girl at his gym. She also texts him food or training questions ALL THE TIME
.. he keeps it professional and his answers are always short and to point. Anyway, she was really bitchy in a class recently. She knows I'm his GF and she has a BF. I just completely ignore it and make sure my BF is keeping it professional. I let him know that I trust him but not necessarily HER!
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