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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half 2 months ago. Since then, he's been out with his friends every night (usually getting drunk or high, something he didn't used to do as much) while I'm here feeling terrible.I've had depression for a while now, but it's gotten really bad after this break up. I was the one who suggested the break up, but he says he's already lost his feelings for me. I still want him back though. He used to care about me so much, so the fact that he doesn't care as much about me anymore hurts when I care about him. He even gets along better with some of MY friends than I do... I just don't understand. Why is this so easy for him?It's not that I want him to be feeling like crap, I just want to feel ok too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt's kinda hard to believe he's suffering when he goes on about how great his life is now on facebook and whenever he talks to me. I know he wouldn't really tell me if he was hurting but it's still pretty convincing.
From the way he acted in the relationship, if he didn't really love me, then I don't know who does...
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reader, confused1224 +, writes (14 November 2011):
hes not gonna tell u that hes missing u he wants u to feel exactly like u do
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reader, ShiShisAdvice +, writes (14 November 2011):
 Because he probably never loved you dear. Face it, and find someone who does. This was just a lesson in the book of life. He didn't care about you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2011): all his drinking and getting high and going out could be his way to dull his pain. different people have different ways of dealing with their pain. Some try to distract themselves by increasing their activity.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 November 2011):
 Maybe it is a front, who knows if he is suffering well you are the last person he is going to want to know if he is or not. Just because he is out all the time does not mean that he is happy. So just remember deep down he might be hurting as well who knows. I know that it is hard for you, but you just need to move on now. He admitted he had lost feelings for you, so you need to accept now that it is over and move forward with your life. It will get easier in time. Just stop all contact with him and go out with friends and try and enjoy yourself, keep yourself busy and focused and I promise in time it will get easier.
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reader, im.not.the.only.one  +, writes (13 November 2011):
Let him get on with what hes doing and concentrate on yourself! If your not feeling the best the last thing you need is to be worrying about something like this! Always think of number one! Sound like this is what hes doing, lifes to short to waste feelings on people who treat you like a door mat! Plus its things like this you learn from and make you tougher! Try treating yourself, go out maybe, do thing that make YOU happy !! in time youl be ok trust me!:)
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