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I like his brother!

Q.   ok were do i start... so i really like this guy (Joe) who i met through his brother (Kevin)! but i know his brother likes me! iv known Kevin through-out school but only really just became proper friends but we have kissed twice which was a ...

A.   23 November 2011: You are simply asking for trouble and heartbreak. There is a dynamic between brothers that many just do not understand. A bit of competiveness in everything. The best thing for you to do is end the relationship because it will never ever work since ... (read in full...)

My friend created a fake profile to trap my long distance B/f, when she realized he too had a dating profile. I'm upset at both of them. What do I do?

Q.   I need some advice on a situation with my friend and my Long Distance boyfriend. My friend created an account on a site to meet friends that she found my long distance boyfriend had an account on. She didn't tell me or ask me before doing this, so I ...

A.   23 November 2011: Change boyfriends and change your friend. Both do not truly care about you. She WILL do it again when she spots something else you have and she wants. And he is on a dating site, so he is not serious about you.... (read in full...)

Girlfriend thinks I'm checking out girls when I'm not!

Q.   I need serious help with my girlfriend she constantly thinks I'm checking out girls when I'm not Even if I do I don't ogle and do it rudely She thinks that's it's a sign that I don't love her that I don't want to be with her that And her friend...

A.   23 November 2011: I think it's great that you are so into her. You convinced me, so maybe the issue is all in her head. Sounds like maybe a past relation cheated on her or she witnessed it in some other traumatic form.... (read in full...)

I have periods where I feel insecure about things. Should I seek help?

Q.   Basically, I tend to go through periods where I am extremely sensitive about things. When i reflect on it, i dont really have cause to feel the way I do but for some reason I do. I am normally content, energetic and loving life. I've never been...

A.   23 November 2011: I go through the exact same thing and I am 45 years old! It doesn't get easier, but I'm glad you posted because I am feeling the same way. I would say to just remember to get one good friend, that's all you need and treat her kindly. ... (read in full...)

Marriage stereotypes....

Q.   After having heard some comments last night, and searching the web a bit for answers, I have this question, and would like to hear different inputs. The topic is marriage, and it appears to me that there are certain stereotypes out there. A...

A.   23 November 2011: My feeling is that women are labeled with the sticker that she cannot get a man. That something is wrong with her. So we fight to escape that label. So many people say that they are happy being alone, but I have been there and I just don't believe ... (read in full...)

Is this headed towards a relationship?

Q.   I met this guy a little under a month ago and I really like him. He's made it clear that he doesn't want a serious relationship but he constantly tells me how much he likes me and cares for me and is always showering me with compliments and ...

A.   23 November 2011: Wow, if you could only see how you sound. You have really low self-esteem to allow yourself these types of FWB relationships. To stay clear of them is to stop SLEEPING with these guys. You are headed for some serious heartbreak if you keep this up. ... (read in full...)

I am ashamed of dating my ex

Q.   Basically, I am ashamed of myself for dating someone as horrible as my ex was. He is now a heavy drug user and dropped out of college. He still tries to reach out to me and asks for friendship but I decline as I'm currently in a relationship. ...

A.   23 November 2011: We all go through that deep shame. Just try to avoid ANY and all contact with him. Change your number if possible and protect your boyfriend from harm. So happy you found a good guy, so happy you did not end up in jail or on drugs. Be proud of ... (read in full...)

Boosting my self-esteem

Q.   Does anyone have any tips to boost my self esteem I feel like my self esteem is really low I feel sad,confused all that other bad stuff can someone please help me? Thank you....

A.   23 November 2011: It is so hard with low self-esteem, many, many people have it. Just some are better able to HIDE it. One way is to think, no one REALLY is looking at what you are doing. They are often more worried about themself.... (read in full...)

We've dumped each other and now people are asking questions

Q.   i'm 16 and a few months ago i cheated on my boyfriend with another guy from school. later on i heard he had cheated on me and i dumped him. some of the story got out and now everyone is asking question about what really happened. should i tell the ...

A.   23 November 2011: It is no one'a business actually. Keep the details to yourself.... (read in full...)

Attracted to students as a teacher. Help!

Q.   I'm a secondary school teacher 11-18 and always find myself attracted to students. I'm 28 and married. I find myself attracted to the older students and sometimes thinking what the younger students will grow up to look like. I have never acted on ...

A.   14 November 2011: Change careers and fast. You are not suited for this line of work. No need to "act" on your impulses, having the impulse is dangerous enough. ... (read in full...)

Am I releasing all my sexual tension onto my guy best friend? Am I cheating by doing things with him that I don't do with my boyfriend?

Q.   Hi. I've got a boyfriend, and recently I asked about relationship advice about our almost non-existent physical relationship. We don't hold hands, and we've never kissed. I got back really good advice. The problem lies in the tips I got from the...

A.   14 November 2011: I've done that before with disasterous results. Channel your energy in exercise. V's & D's were never made of gold and diamonds, no matter how much we think they are. When you fall in true love, and marry, now THAT'S awesome! Stop this nonsense. And ... (read in full...)

How do I word something to her that makes her realise that it's not appropriate to cancel dates at the last minute when a lot of prep has gone into them?

Q.   I met a girl through internet dating. She was lovely and I'd really like to see her again. We've been texting each other etc and seem to get on ok, but she doesn't seem as keen to chat as before we met up. Having said that, she's been ill and - ...

A.   14 November 2011: You're not getting the message honey, she wasn't interested. Let her go, try a girl who will respect & appreciate you. There are LOT'S out there. Us girls are a bit hard to understand...we fall for the guy that treats us like crap! Don't waste ... (read in full...)

How can I draw boys attention to me without turning into a slut?

Q.   how can i draw boys attention to me without turning in to a slut? ive never had a boyfriend, not even a little girl relationship, i think im ready for one now but i dont have the confidence to tell anyone that i have the hots for them, i myself dont ...

A.   14 November 2011: Then don't. Boys draw our attention by playing sports. Men, LOVE the smart girl that doesn't seem to notice him. Try it! Oh and there aint no "standards" in love. The ugly ones hurt us just as bad as the handsome ones!... (read in full...)

Is this a traditional FWB relationship?

Q.   A close friend of mine which I have known for the past 3 years, and I have hooked up 4 times in the last 7 months. I'm not sure if it's a FWB relationship... we don't booty call each other (which is what I've read that FWB do), or have long cha...

A.   14 November 2011: First, you are a bit mixed up to think this is "normal". A relationship, even sexual, should not be "secret". You are DAMAGING yourself, and you don't even know it! Great if he wants you to be his girl and announce it to the world. And if he does ... (read in full...)

Is this normal in a healthy relationship?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 yrs, we tend to get in huge arguments about 2 times a year, they get to the point one of us is walking out. They usually start over something silly and usually him being annoyed by it (something in the ...

A.   14 November 2011: I'm sorry, you have two children and you are not married??!! Set a date no later than 6 mos away, if you are not wed, then pack up your kids and leave. It's fine if you don't think marriage is important, but for your children, it is. Stop being so ... (read in full...)

His ultimatum: Get rid of my online friends and date site profiles,or he is going to leave!

Q.   My boyfriend of 6 months has given me an ultimatum. Either I get rid of my on line friends and Date Site profiles,or he is going to leave. I have been on them for 3 years and enjoy it. I feel a bit like he is telling me what to do. Which shall I go ...

A.   14 November 2011: If he is your man, then delete your profile. You are ONE of the lucky ones that found someone that didn't disappear after the first date! Put down the mouse, and cultivate your new REAL-LIFE relationship.... (read in full...)

She kept it from me that she is HIV positive!

Q.   Am a guy who in April meet a girl, i fell in love with her so much that even though she sometimes acted childsh i would readly forgive. unfortunately she kept something important a secreat her HIV status, of which she is HIV positive. our ...

A.   14 November 2011: Unfortunately she worked this one out wrong. Keep moving on. It's not your fault, HIV + people are counseled on this type of situation and she did not follow the right path. She lost. You have a right to decide what to do with your intimate life. By ... (read in full...)

Why did this special connection end?

Q.   Hi guys, i'm so confused. And asking you guys on the internet is the last resort I have to get some advice and clear my mind. Anyways, I've been in a FWB relationship with this guys for about 2 months. We started off by hooking up when we were bot...

A.   14 November 2011: Can't give up the booty, guys don't like girls that are easy. Always has, always will.... (read in full...)

Is being loud a bad thing?

Q.   Is there a problem with being too loud during sex? My boyfriend and I don't have sex like we used to because he said I'm too loud and his roomates are home and we all live together. ...

A.   14 November 2011: Yep, first you should NEVER do it when they are around. And honestly, if you are, then your man truly doesn't respect YOU! Honey when a man truly loves you, he protects you and keeps you to himself! Never forget that. He is embarressed because they ... (read in full...)

Why are guys jerks like this?

Q.   So I started dating this after finishing school, we live in different states. I went to visit him in his hometown and we fell really hard for each other, he told me that he loved me after about a week. I said that we couldn't have a relationship ...

A.   14 November 2011: Guys deal in dreams most times when it comes to women...It is best that this one didn't work out before you got too deep.... (read in full...)

He's really slow at taking the hint

Q.   Ok I'll get right to it! My boyfriend is the shy, quiet, reserved, sweet, tall, mysterious, handsome type of guy. We've been good friends for a year and started *officially dating a month ago. Thing is I'm his first girlfriend and he knows I've had ...

A.   14 November 2011: He's still a bit immature, but it sounds like he's worth the wait.... (read in full...)

Why is this break up so easy for him?

Q.   I broke up with my boyfriend of a year and a half 2 months ago. Since then, he's been out with his friends every night (usually getting drunk or high, something he didn't used to do as much) while I'm here feeling terrible. I've had depression f...

A.   14 November 2011: Because he probably never loved you dear. Face it, and find someone who does. This was just a lesson in the book of life. He didn't care about you.... (read in full...)

He cheated, I broke it off, but I want answers!

Q.   my bf of a few years cheated on me its been a week since i broke it off with him. im still in a lot of pain. i told him to leave me alone and he said he would respect that. i promised my self to cut off all contact i blocked his number and deleted ...

A.   14 November 2011: It is true once a cheater, always a cheater. There is no closure, so move on, with all questions left unanswered. It is the absolute best thing you can do to heal your heart. There are men who would never, ever cheat. Go get yourself one. And ... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

Q.   Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

A.   14 November 2011: Sorry my advice was so scandalous...forgive me. Let me clarify, but yes, in Islam it is never okay to stress your husband over finances, the asker is from MALAYSIA and the dominant religion is Islam. That is the reason for that route in my answer. ... (read in full...)

What do women feel when they are horny?

Q.   hi !! if a boy or man gets horny he gets a erection !! what a girl or women feels when they are sexually aroused !! hope u wil answer my question ????...

A.   27 October 2011: A woman gets turned on by the way a man looks at her with desire. Very simple. ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to make this guy stop calling me without sounding nasty!

Q.   Hi Readers. Could someone please give me some advice. I am feeling very depressed about numerous events that have taken place in my life over the last 12 months including the death of my two cats in April of this year within 2 months of one an...

A.   27 October 2011: Don't answer your phone when he calls or better yet, block his number so you won't hear it ring. When you are ready, unblock it. Easy-peasy... (read in full...)

I cannot live with the thoughts of his immoral illegal past dating a 14 year old when he was 23!

Q.   Hi I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months now. We have spent almost every night together for the past 4 months and he more or less lives at my house with myself and my child. He sends me love notes and love bears and tells me almost every ...

A.   27 October 2011: You cannot be serious that you allow this man around your child!! In America we have a website for sex offenders, because that is what he is. It post their pictures. Put your child first in this situation...No one is THAT good in bed to endanger ... (read in full...)

I'm confused as to his true intentions

Q.   i have been hanging out with a guy who's normally used to casual relationships. i told him from the start that im not the type of girl that is okay with casual sex, but yet he still asks to see me almost every weekend. when we hang out we talk most ...

A.   27 October 2011: Playing games. You SAY you are "not that type of girl", yet you do those things. If he is not taking you around family and friends, then he is playing you. So stop the game. If he is "showing you off" then you are fine. Remember, a guy that truly ... (read in full...)

Will we get together? And if not what should I do about being his "bit on the side"?

Q.   Me and an old friend have started talking a lot more like we use too. We did stop talking for a bit because we both was busy. we have been flirting like we use too, however he is 2years older than me and he has a girlfriend. I do enjoy spending time ...

A.   27 October 2011: Stop being his "bit on the side", and find your own man. Your heart will feel better for it.... (read in full...)

Online dating - no-one replies to my messages! How do I make girls interested in me?

Q.   I have been using dating sites for quite some time now but no one seems to be interested replying me. I might not have look of Tom Cruise but I am not that bad either. So What I need to do to make girls interested in me and finally get a ...

A.   27 October 2011: First of all, the MAN chooses the woman. So you have to get out there and answer ads. It is the woman who responds to YOUR interest or "wink". Stop being lazy, and find yourself a woman. Don't hesitate to try someone w/extra pounds or a bit plain. ... (read in full...)

Did I do something wrong by refusing to pay for my wife's new dress?

Q.   Hi, I really got to get this out as I don't know what I am doing wrong, maybe there are some factos which I am not taking into account. My wife and I are both young working professionals, my salary is higher than hers by around 30%. We bough...

A.   27 October 2011: If you are Muslim, she should never pressure you financially. You sound just like my husband...pulls out the bills everytime I spend, though I work the extra hours to make the extra cash to spend. I never dip into the household funds. BUT, it is the ... (read in full...)

My past is coming back to haunt me.....

Q.   I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...

A.   27 October 2011: OMG, shame on your parents for giving him your number. Have you ever heard the expression "The wolf has come knocking at your door". Keep it LOCKED. This smells of trouble. Let me tell you something about guys. They like things "easy". Meaning, your ... (read in full...)

How can I get over this, and still be friends with his brother, and not see my ex?

Q.   Hello, I am really having a hard time getting over my ex. I met him thru his brother, aand now it feels like i have to cut his brother my friend off, because things are, well nothing is happening with us. I was doing ok with not communicating with ...

A.   27 October 2011: Sorry, but you can't be "friends" with his brother. Close the chapter on this part of your life. People are NOT in our lives forever, just for a moment. Little bit of advice. You're not in high school anymore, take care of your child and grow up! ... (read in full...)

I am buying new home and the mortgage lender advised that my name does NOT go on the mortgage!!! Why?!?

Q.   Mortgage lender told my hubby to NOT put my name on the title of the home, just put it in his will. That does not sound right, is this normal advice? So once again, we are having relationship problems when I thought we had worked it all out. Wh...

A.   27 October 2011: Thanks for all of your answers, but "Double Jack" is the best response. I am talking about the Deed/Title. Not the mortgage loan. I am talking about the legal title of the home. No one expects anything to happen to them in life, but yes, it can ... (read in full...)

How can I make a man want to marry me?

Q.   How can I keep my man satisfied in our relationship? Including all factors. How could I make him want to marry me? ladies or fellas, thanks in advance! :-)...

A.   14 October 2011: Read every book on dating/relationships in your local library. Must reads:He's Just Not That Into You & The Rules. Keep in mind the ladies that wrote The Rules are now divorced but it has great points. If you want a man to marry you:Don't sleep wi... (read in full...)

I've had a thing for him for a year, but I'm not good enough!

Q.   Hey, Okay, I've had a thing with this guy for a year and a half, he still was in love with his ex so we decided to wait. Finally, he asked me to be his girlfriend again, I said no be because he was going to college soon. Also, I'm not good enough f...

A.   14 October 2011: Let me tell you one thing first. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL,if you don't think so, listen to Christine Aguillera's song everyday if you have to! Second, you DON'T HAVE anything with this guy, it's all in your head. You are just "practice" for him, so just ... (read in full...)

He couldn't make me any happier..except in the bedroom

Q.   I'm engaged to a guy that couldn't possibly make me any happier... except when it comes to the bedroom. It seems that my libido is much higher than his, despite the fact that he's only three years older than me.It seems unfair on both ends since I'm ...

A.   14 October 2011: Believe me hon, if it's a problem now, it WILL be a heartbreaking problem later. Move on. Don't say I didn't warn you.... (read in full...)

Why would a man do this when there are kids involved?

Q.   My babies daddy lied to me about being in a relationship with someone else. Then we slept together. When I found out about her, he still denied he was in a relationship until she told me directly. Now our whole friendship is shattered, he can't even ...

A.   14 October 2011: Because he is a man, ant that's what they do when you LET them.... (read in full...)

College teacher taking it to far???

Q.   *** of note:this is college not highschool. Thanks I'm currently taking a horticulture class and our teacher is pretty cool.Jokes around a lot and sometimes in the most ADD of ways.Class got out for lunch, and he, myself,two of my friends came alo...

A.   14 October 2011: yuck and it's wrong. Remember if it makes you feel "oogie" it's wrong. Don't go to lunch with the teacher ever again. Ace his class, and never take one of his courses again.... (read in full...)

Should I tell my bestfriend that her boyfriend was cheating on her?

Q.   I need to get someone else advice on this. should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her? My best friend and I are close, so I feel bad. My sister came and told me that my best friend boyfriend has been cheating on her....

A.   14 October 2011: If I was the one being cheated on, I would want to know...BUT wiser people have said "It is none of your business." Such a tough thing to go through. Just be there to help her pick up the pieces. My own sister kept my ex's affairs a secret, and I ... (read in full...)

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