A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I just wanted some thoughts on how you would feel if you were in my shoes. My partner acts quite strange, we seem happy and he tells me he loves me all the time. So, I was away for a while and when I got back I was busy with work. I told my partner I was going to pop in on our mutual friends while I was there pick up some belongins I had left. He suddenly made every excuse in the book for me not to go insisting that he would go instead. He doesn't like to speak to his best friend on the phone in front of me and goes to another room where he can't be heard. The last time his friend came to our house he pretended that he wasn't in and didn't answer the door! He does these sort of things all the time and I really feel like he is trying to keep his friends away from me, The question is, Why? I just have this horrible feeling that he says stuff that he doesn't want them to repeat back to me and that he plays us off against each other!
View related questions:
best friend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): Trust your instincts...they are often right, but we don't want to believe itThe more he insisted that you not go, I would have gone anyway at that point...something is just not right
A
reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2012): Yeah there's something wrong there.
If this is only a recent thing and you're already friends with these people, and he's never acted this way before then perhaps he's arranging a surprize party or he's thinking of proposing to you. Think of any upcoming important dates or trips you have organized. I'd wait until they pop up to see what happens before you think the worst.
If on the other hand he's never introduced you to them and always kept them away then there could be a lot of reasons really but the most viable ones are: He's only in it for the short term and doesn't want his friends becoming emotionally attached to you and therefore making a break up far more difficult, cheating is also another possibility as friends are very often the worst liars or there could be an age gap so big that he feels the need to shield you and his friends from the massive generation gap.
Look if this is a recent development then it's either a surpirze party or maybe he's cheating, it's frankly impossible to tell. I did the suprize party thing and I had to own up to it beforehand because my girlfriend is too observant and I made it far too secret and suspicious. No surprize party is worth you feeling so horrible, so perhaps it's better you ask him why he's doing this. No need to confront him and don't offer the surprize party thing as an excuse either. Just ask him why the James Bond stuff lately.
...............................
|
