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writes:I'm of Indian origin but don't look stereotypically Indian. Most people find me too light skinned to be Indian and always think I'm half Indian. I'm pretty tall and have done ballet for years, so I'd say I have a pretty good figure. I'm quite skinny but I am very curvy.I have only dated white guys and although I don't care about race. Seriously don't! But I wonder why is that black men or Indian men or Chinese men NEVER approach me. I find they don't even try for some reason, which is a shame, cause I think attractive men exist everywhere! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): Could be a religious thing with them, who knows... Best to just ask those in question about it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Of course, one "answer" is to ask those about whom you're questioning.....
BUT,... and I think this is more important.... WHAT DIFFERENCE DOES IT MAKE???????
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): When I was skinny, black guys never approached me. When I had my daughter and became 20 lb heavier, I started getting attention from black guys. I guess they do like their girls bigger. Asian guys never ever approached me, and I m not tall.Indian men I can't really tell the difference . I think they look like Latino to me:). I personally don't care, there are plenty of gorgeous looking guys in every race, if he treats you right then he is the one.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 I don't know about black guys , but , about Indian and Chinese guys... isn't that self evident ? haven't you observed how they operate socially in generally ?..Don't you now Indian or Chinese families where you live ? ..
Because they think you are white.
Indian and Chinese communities in Europe are extremely tight, extremely close- knit, extremely self-reliant and insular .The might be superficially well integrated, and have civil, pleasant interactions with neighbours , classmates and coworkers , but when it comes down to the really important things, like the choice of a mate, they prefer their own people ( now please posters don't pipe up : Not true, my sister married a Chinese ! ... My friend did too, and obviously there are exceptions to any given situation, but IN PERCENTUAL their rate of mixed marriages - inter-race or inter-faith - is very ,very low.
Everybody from every race wants someone that , just in case, if all goes well, " they could bring home to mom ". Mom is very powerful in every culture ,LOL !
Chinese mom or Indian mom often would not be happy with someone from a different ethnicity, her reaction could go from coldness and disappointment ... to going totally berserk. And this WAAAY before the stage of being serious and/ or getting engaged.
It makes sense that the guys want to spare themselves the drama and the complications, , unless they just lost totally their head at first sight.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 Honestly... who knows? I think you need to ask the men in question instead of us.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (28 October 2012):
 I cannot tell you there personal reasons for not approaching you, however I can say that it should not always be left to the man to approach the woman. Therefore if someone catches your eye, then make the effort and make the first move. You have nothing to lose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): Asian men don't typically want tall women and black men typically like their women fuller figured. These are just generalizations but seem to be the norm. I'm not sure about Indian men but don't they usually date and marry based on their family and culture? Are you mainly in white social circles?
Instead of focusing on who isn't asking you out, make the best of dating those guys who DO ask you out. Try online dating. I've often heard Indian women complain how only Indian men, no white guys, ask them out on those sites so you might have some luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2012): do you really not know the reason why colored men don't approach white girls?
have you not ever been insulted or humiliated by a person who thinks is better than you?
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