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writes:My ex broke up with me about five months back now, he said he wasn't happy anymore, he didn't feel the same because he didn't see a future with us. Whenever I texted him regarding us, he just completely ignored me. When I asked for a second chance he texted saying' I don't feel the same as I use to anymore, can't help that, getting back together again for a bit, won't change things, only make things worse and harder for us'. He 's leaving to live in Oxford soon and I just can't bear the thought of never seeing him again. We said we would stay in contact and at least be friends, we met the other night and had drinks and it was really nice spending time together. However, I stupidly text him asking if he fancied some fun for old times, and he has just ignored me again. He can't seem to talk about us at all, does he feel like there is nothing more to say? Does he just want to move on? I'm trying too, but the more I try to move on, the more I want him. We used to be good together and don't really understand why he never gave us a second chance at things, he now says he thinks he will not come round here to live again after he finishes his course, is he just telling me to move on? Should I just leave him alone and let him move on? I'm just so upset that he is leaving me behind, his course lasts just over a year. I can't stop thinking about him, never felt like this before. Is there any ways of improving my chances of getting him back? Or does he feel nothing? I think he must feel something because why would he be agreeing to meet up with me as friends, he could always say no. Please offer advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): There is a push and pull situation going on here. you are pushing him to love you again and he is pulling away. stop this immediately and you will know if there is anything there there (trust me). When you stop calling him and after say 3 months he doesnt call; then it is deffinately over. If however, he does call then maybe you can build back (atleast) a friendship. you are suffocating him and the love is unrequited.It hurts so much, it really does but the quicker you step back the quicker the journey to self healing. Goodluck dood luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): The fact is - you can't miss someone, who is constantly breathing down your neck. Give him some space, please. You are pushing him so much further away with all your texting and communication. I know you miss him and I know it hurts.If he does love you, he will come back, but until then, distance yourself from him, completely.
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