A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone! ok i have a problem its not serious to me but to my husband it is. ok we've been together since about a month b4 my 17th birthday im now 21{almost 22}we've been married 2 years and for some reason i just really dont have alot of interest in sex anymore. like when we were teenagers we had sex like rabbits here there everywhere lol{almost} and when we first got married it was like that too. Then he got deployed and was gone for 16 months and i was completely faithful and im pretty sure he was too. When he came home for about the first 3 months it was like nothing changed now im changing i dont really get horny anymore and alot of the time when i do he's not around.{he's been home now 11 months} and also like for some reason it kinda hurts when we have sex now. he says i dont get up on him anymore or im not freaky enough but i never really was and yeah i got up on him but im just not horny anymore. Is this normal i mean im only 21{i dont have any kids}im just going crazy. he wants it all the time but i find myself alot of the time just giving it to him cause i dont want him to cheat or find something else. Also when i do do that i do sometimes find myself starting to enjoy it then he gets off and messes me all up so then im horny and he's sleeping.so i find myself the next day playing with myself and then when he comes home im not horny or i just find myself going to sleep and not being horny period like i brush it off or something.why have i lost my sex drive at such an early age or is it just normal? what should i do.what can i do?
View related questions:
horny, period, sex drive Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 October 2008):
 It's pretty hard on a young body to force yourself to turn it off and wait until your husband comes home, and yet, you managed to do that. Now, you need to turn around and turn it all on again like a tap, and it's pretty hard to do all of that on cue. Stop punishing yourself and take things slowly, get to know each other again. We all go through a few dry spells in relationships (including when we raise children0, so everyone goes through times when sex isn't automatic. Just accept that sometimes it's a bit less "spontaneous" and work with it. Lots of couples hit a dry spell from time-to-time. Instead, relax and stop worrying about it. The moment that you stop putting pressure on yourselves is probably the same moment that you remember why you were attracted to him in the first place.
|
