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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:My best friend of five years is beginning to make things complicated for us. I used to really like him, but he made it quite clear that nothing could happen because he had a girlfriend at that point and he didn't think he could ever see me in that way. I didn't think much of it, I half expected that outcome. He's got girls chasing him and I feel like the frumpy friend most of the time I'm with him. It's months after I expressed those feelings, and they still haven't gone away. Of course I haven't told him this. He recently started seeing a therapist for some problems at home -I convinced him to get help. Since his first session he's changed. Nobody else can see it, but nobody else knows he goes to therapy. He only confided in me. Anyway, he's began waiting for me after classes, then walking the long way around campus to walk me to my next class. Then he just pushed away again and began choosing his ex girlfriends over me. Just like he'd done before therapy. I was out with a few friends over the weekend and he walked past with some of his friends that I'd met at previous house parties. He made an unnecessary comment about the people I was with then walked away. It made me so annoyed, not because of the comment but that he had the nerve to make it when he never invites me out himself. Does he expect me to sit in the house alone whenever he's not free? I'd been getting close to this other guy I've known for years and my best friend started acting weird whenever I mentioned this guy. One morning it was just the two of us talking, and my best friend just comes and butts into the conversation. His friends were all around, so usually he would've gone over to them and ignored me until our first class. That's the way it's always been. Then last night I was in such a depressed mood -I recovered from depression about four months ago but I'm pretty sure it's returned- and I was having a heart to heart with my best friend. He ended up calling me beautiful and saying I have an amazing personality. I don't know where it came from. But don't guys usually call girls 'hot' and other words along those lines, not 'beautiful', so he must not have meant it. Right?Today I was exhausted and resting on the table with my eyes closed whenever the teacher went out of the room. He began playing with my hands, something he only did when he was drunk. I want to know what's going on with him? Why's he suddenly changed? Please, help me.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (24 November 2009):
Why don't you talk to him. He might fancy you, then again he might not But unless you talk to him, there's no way anyone will ever know. Be brave and say to him that he's been acting differently with you, and you'd like to know why.
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