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writes:about a year ago I really fancied a guy but he didn't even know i existed in that way. A little while before that I had a huge 6 month long crush on a fit mate and he never liked me or even considered me. Before that I have had crushes on countless guys and no one EVER likes me. EVER!so my first problem is how can i get guys to like me!!!i know that that is a hard stupid question to anwser so dont worry to much...but the main question is: since being rejected by so many guys I dont know what has happened to myself but I never EVER fancy guys anymore and i havnt for a year! its terrible but i dont know how to stop it or start fancying people again!?!? Is there something wrong with me... i know this is bare long but opinions and help would be much much much appreciated :) xxxxxx thankyoup.s just cos i dont fancy guys doesnt mean i fancy girls i am definately straight I jsut dont fancy ANYONE anymore! D:
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): I am 34. Going to be 35 this year. Shhh! I don't fancy anyone either. I have been single for 3 years. My past relationships have been with men who just use me. One for money, hid me away and the other as a ground sheet as my mother put it. I don't fancy anyone. I don't know if it is because I don't want anyone else to get close to me again or what. I know that I don't trust men that is for sure. I don't want to be on my own for the rest of my life either. I used to dress to disappear so no one would try and get close. I have just changed my job and no longer dress like that. I am trying now. I just don't fancy anyone or see anyone I like.
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Don't put so much pressure on yourself. Things will resolve themselves eventually if you stop thinking about it. It'll all work out. I promise.
-Jmo
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): thank you, those answers were all great help.in answer to arkitechs questionwhy do you feel the need to have to "fancy" someone?i don't feel the need to have to fancy someone but i found it strange that I didn't as all my peers around my like people or have a relationship at some point through a year. I wasn't saying that I needed to fancy someone I was just wondering why I wasn't.p.s I am thinking about my future don't worry. This doesn't matter that much to me ,I was just worried
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reader, Arkiteck +, writes (28 January 2008):
My first question is, why do you feel the need to have to "fancy" someone? So you don't like anyone...BIG DEAL! Maybe the obvious answer is that you haven't met/found anyone worth liking. I don't understand what the rush is anyways. You're 16 or 17 and have your whole life ahead of you, don't define the worth of your life on the basis of who you like/likes you. That's just pointless.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Maybe you don't fancy anybody anymore because subconsciously you are expecting to be rejected; it sounds a little that way when you say 'no-one ever fancies you'. I don't think there is a magic formula to getting guys to like you, there are people out there who will fancy you and who will appreciate you for you, it's just finding them and I have no doubt that in time you will. Be outgoing, confident, express your personality and I am sure people will be drawn to that. Good luck :).
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reader, speedcat +, writes (28 January 2008):
Sounds like your just going through a faze and your a little down on yourself because youve been rejected. You're very young, worry about your future right now not boys. First of all you need to feel good about yourself before someone else can feel good about you. Try excersizing always works for me gives you a rush and makes you full of energy, you can even say makes you feel sexy!!!! And besides, maybe you haven't been attracted to anyone for a while because the right one hasn't come along it could be that simple.....Give it time will work out stop driving yourself crazy!!!!! Good luck
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