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writes:I'm eighteen years old and ive been with my boyfriend for about four months. even though that seems like no time at all, both me and my boyfriend feel like we're "the one" for the other.he proposed after just a couple weeks.lately though, it seems he doesnt really want me anymore.we'll watch movies and ill lay on his chest and everything, but he never kisses me anymore. only for hello and goodbye.ive been trying to figure out his problem so ive come to three possible conclusions.1.i think its because ive been crying a lot recently. he tells me to stop bottling my emotions but its habit. hes the first person ive ever cried in front of. and now everytime i even think about a fight or problem we have, i tear up. its very embarrassing.2.however, mom tells me its because we're together to much and he wants space. im taking her advice to not immediately call him when im off work and wait for him. i dont think thats his problem though. he has plenty of time with his friends. hes even stood me up a few hours to hang with his friends a couple times.3.maybe its sex related. we had a fight at prom last week because i didnt want my first time with him to be in his truck after we had just barely made up from another fight. (i was apparently "grinding" on him wrong. i was trying. i guess im just not good.) that was the last time he tried to touch me.now all we seem to do is argue about everything.i dont think he wants me at all.whats his deal? or is it something im doing? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 May 2010):
 This answer may be not very satisfactory to you- nevertheless it reflects the reality of many teen age relationships.
I assume your bf is around your age, and at this age,or even later, boys are not very mature or future oriented.
They tend to change their mind easily, and when there is a problem in the relationship, rather than tryng to work things out- they just loose steam or distance themselves.
Anything that's inconvenient or not to their liking- a few tears, a wrong way of "grinding "- may turn them off because they were not determined to make any effort to make the relationship grow stronger to begin with.
Don't take it personally. For once,it's true- it's not about you,it's him.
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