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writes:Having met a man a few weeks ago on holiday we didnt have any sex (although he was keen to) he gave me his address and phone number and e mailed me and we met after a seminar he was attending which was just four days after returning. We e mailed a few times but nothing has come of it and now it seems to have died altogether.I just cannot understand why he went to all those lengths to keep in touch then only four days later changes his mind, then says he will stay friends but doesnt want any romantic attachment. I have to assume he has met someone else or hopefully you will tell me he is probably like it with everyone and isnt interested in anything long term with any of his encounters. I dont know where I went wrong? No I wasnt looking to walk down the aisle and had we had sex I would understand him saying he didnt want me now (not nice but often the reality) but we havent slept together so what is wrong with me Why didnt he like meand if he didnt like me why did he try on holiday and then e mail on return? But obviously he doesnt like me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): He just realized that he didn't like you enough. It happens. Its not about you: stop making it about you. Different people like different things. Maybe he doesn't like brunettes, or whatever your hair color is: who knows. Accept it, move on.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (28 July 2008):
Well hopefully you're not thinking this way...but having sex with him isn't going to make him like you. I wouldn't initiate an invitation for a holiday with him either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe lives a long way away we couldnt have sex that night because he said he couldnt stay long so that was never an issue. I am thinking perhaps he is a player and is not interested in emotions -so that is that shame I liked him and am considering asking him if he is up for a weekend away then if he wants then call it a day after that. If he likes his freedom and sex hopefully he will jump at the chance and have a second chance. Ill give it a try and see !!!!
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (28 July 2008):
 We can't think for him so let's see if I would be the guy in this situation.
Hmmm...
After a couple of emails, maybe I would have loose interest because I would have felt like it's going nowhere, so I would have backed off. Maybe I would have think that if she were interested in me, she would have had sex with me during that night. Maybe I would have found someone else, maybe I found out that all I really wanted was sex and nothing more. That I didn't want to hurt any body's feeling so I backed off.
All of those are Maybes, he's the only one who knows for sure.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (28 July 2008):
It's not you! Could be another person, could be he's not interested in something serious...could be so many things. He could be playing games, who knows? I suggest just leaving him alone, usually the more you leave them alone the more they want to talk to you. Just figure out if you really want someone around that doesn't know what they want or could possibly be playing games. But DON'T blame yourself, there's nothing wrong with you and you didn't do anything wrong--he's just being a man, and sometimes they don't act too bright.
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