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writes:My wife seems to enjoy going out late at night alot. That's without me. I guess her so called friends are worth spending nights without me. The thing is, I really don't trust those people. On top of that, we're in a newer environment and she likes to stay out late going who knows where? Plus, one time I found a motel receipt and inquired her about it. She said it was for her friend and her friends boyfriend and she was just hanging out with them. She paid for the room but claims her friend gave her the money back. I doubt she did anything stupid but I think that was very disrespectful towards for her to stay out late and be at a hotel with someone that I don't even know. Wasn't her kinfolk. On top of that, there was a male...with my woman. WTF? She has a home to go to and a man as well I don't see why she has to do that. I'm not the smartest person in the world but I just know that's something people just don't do. Especially if you're married.
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (26 June 2009):
Tbonex is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you, Ginalolabridga. I only spoke to her about it once but she didn't even want to discuss it. I'll approach the situation like I should have in the first place but I will be a man and be civilized about it. I just know I wouldn't go to a hotel with a different woman whether or not I had a so called friend in there. I know better than that.
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reader, Tbonex +, writes (26 June 2009):
Tbonex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you rcn
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reader, rcn +, writes (26 June 2009):
 Being a realist here, it's hard for me to believe someone orders a motel room for a friend, and gets paid back in cash, when motels accept cash as payment.
Why are you accepting this behavior as part of your marriage? Why is she plainly disrespecting you and your marriage?
This behavior is wrong. I recommend to be honest with your wife about how you feel. It's not about justifying her actions, but about how this behavior is affecting you. Start out by asking her not to answer and you do the talking about how you feel. Then give her a chance to say what she'd like. It's important both of you view this behavior from the eyes of the other. I highly doubt she doesn't recognize this behavior may be wrong, but either way it's important to see her actions from her view as well.
A marriage is about both of you. Not about her playing while you stay home. Respect need to be joint, and not one sided. It's a commitment, and not one to be lightly taken. I hope this helps. After your conversation, let us know what happens, and if you need anything else.
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