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writes:Hey all just a quick question.Im 19 and 4 months ago i got with my current boyfriend after talking to him for a half a year, i dont know whether this may help but im only 5ft 1 and of a petite build, where he's 5'11, very muscley, and just huge, as in huge hands, feet, muscles, everything. And thats where it leads to my question.My ex boyfriend was quite petite like me, he was only 5'5, and had a small frame, he also had a average size penis. (Im not saying it has anything to do with his body size, just from my experiance at the moment the bigger the boy, such as the bigger hands or feet the bigger the penis, not that its true in all cases.)My ex boyfriend was about 5 inches when hard and i only know that because he had measured, i dont know the exact measurement of my new boyfriends, but it is noticably larger, in width and length. Too the point i have seen quite a few penis' in my life, due to drunken teenage boys feeling the need to get them out every ten minutes, and i was quite shocked when i seen my new boyfriends.I had a touch of thrush when we first got together, but as the sexual health clinic said it wasnt very severe i completeley forgot to get it sorted (me and my new boyfriend both got tested so that we could use the contraceptive pill as protection) Soon after having sex i noticed i would feel discomfort, not so much pain, almost a burning sensation in my vagina. Too which my boyfriend would want to carry on having sex and i physically couldnt as it was too painful. Then i noticed that when he entered me i got the sharpest, horriblest pain i had ever felt shoot through my vagina, everytime i new it was coming and it still nearly made me screaming in pain. This would happen everytime we changed position and he would re-enter me. Then the after sex symptoms started to last longer, and eventually the itch came, so thats where i realised it was the thrush getting aggravated by having sex.I got myself some thrush treatment and so did my partner, and since then the sharp shooting pain has stopped, and so had the itchy burning sensation after sex. Though after abut an hour of having sex i will start to feel a tiny bit sore, not a lot. Its not enough to bother me and most of the time i dont notice, just sometimes after the longer sex. We tried to use a condom to see if the extra lubrication may help, but we physically couldnt get the normal size condom on my boyfriends penis, he said it was too painful, and it was literally stuck at the top of his penis.Do you think this is down to his size or may i have another problem? Do other women feel sore after having sex for a while with there partners? and do you think the other symptoms were definatly from my thrush or his penis size? Thanks in advance xx
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 Yikes I just remembered! I recently bought some lube (as I am get bothered by dryness) and to my horror the new lube I got burned like s¤%t. It had menthol in it. It could be that I was already a little sore when I put it on (I wanted to add it after we had already been going at it for a while) and that the menthol got to a cut or something... But it was like adding alcohol to an open wound. Boy did it sting. So by all means avoid any lubricant that says tingling, or menthol or anything up that lane.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2010): Im the poster of the question, i cant find where i wrote the code down too!Thanks for the advice rose pettle, in the first month of being with him once after sex i did bleed a bit, but it hasnt happend since so i think it was me getting used to him and yes i do try and stay away from having sex behind as it does feel like he's pushing on my bladder.Thanks also for the advice chigirl,the things you say i can relate too, i find after a while i do dry up, but i thought that was because with my older partner he lasted about 5 minutes, where now its longer. I will go get some lubricant as we sometimes struggle with him getting inside me and i had put it down to the height difference that we couldnt get it in all the time. I find that it often happens after abput 20-30 minutes. Yes it is hard sometimes having sex with him for an hour, it often makes me desperate for the toilet, my legs ache, andi get a bit uncomfortable. Thanks!
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reader, ladyjaye +, writes (28 April 2010):
 I've been through a similar situation as well, and just so you know you can get condoms for large penis'! I would suggest you invest in some lubricant such as durex play because that can help. Make sure that when you have sex you are as turned on and relaxed as possible. Also get him to enter you very slowly by entering the tip of his penis inside of you then pulling it back out and gradually increasing the length of penis until he has reached as much inside you as possible... thats what helped me!! gud luk!!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (28 April 2010):
After an hour of penetration I think most women would feel sore. I know I do. I have a problem with drying out if it gets "boring". Just penetration isn't enough to keep me wet and moist, and when I dry out the friction becomes too much. Your description of the pain you first experienced sounds like what I often experience. I simply tell my boyfriend that Im getting sore and ask him to either finish up or that we continue later. If you are dry it will hurt a lot when he pulls out and then tries to re-enter. Changing positions has the same effect.
I had a boyfriend who had a good girth to him, and the only way we could have sex normally was to use lube. So I adice you to use lube when you have sex. Condoms in my experience only helped to dry me out more. But if you want to try condoms again (as for some I guess they might help) there are condoms made for the well endoved. You will probably be able to find them in sex toys stores if you can't find them where you usually buy them.
I will add in that if he is as big as you say (his body frame doesn't really matter in this), you are doing great being able to have sex with him for an hour without getting bothered. In fact I am impressed.
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reader, Kenneth  +, writes (28 April 2010):
Tell your b/f to be very gentle & go a little easy on you while thrusting. Spend some time on foreplay, so that you can be well lubricated before penetration. Sex is supposed to enjoyable, not hurt. Good luck!
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