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writes:Please help, I am in turmoil. I was with my ex-boyfriend on and off for 7 years. We got together when I was 17 and split up when I was 24. I ended our relationship because I had slept with someone else. I then immediately started a relationship with this other person. I am still with my new boyfriend after 7 months but I can't get my ex out of my head. I just want to get on with my life and my new relationship. I do not want my ex back but he is always popping into my thoughts and lots of things me and my new boyfriend do remind me of him/us. I cannot cope with this, I have suffered from depression and anxiety in the recent past, and I can't cope with this carrying on much longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks :o)
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (31 October 2008):
 You were together for seven years. It only ended seven months ago, and probably not on pleasant terms (well I can't imagine he was too pleased with it anyway). You were with him for your whole adult life up to this point, you grew up with him. Most (if not all) of your memories of the last seven years of your life are tied up with this bloke. I think it's safe to say that thoughts of him are unavoidable at this point. It takes time to move on, sometimes more than you'd think, sometimes more than you'd like. In time the memories will fade as you'll make new associations with your new boyfriend, it's a matter of rebuilding your history, creating new memories and putting distance between yourself and this other man.
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