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*ngelina-katey
writes:why my husband look other female ? and when i catch hem he say i didn't look at other female . what bother me is the lie do u think he miss something ?what i should do help thnax Reply to this Question
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reader, oldbiker  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Hi,
Altho' I have been married for 30 odd years, I still look at other women when we're out together. I am not comparing them with my wife, I may try to justify it by saying it's natural. I know it used to upset my wife in the early years of our marriage and I was embarrassed to admit that I had looked at others, altho' I knew I was fooling nobody. My wife was not big busted and was probably insecure because of that and I had to tell her that I had married her for more than her physical attributes. Altho' your husband may deny what he is doing, it may be some help to realise that he married you and that should be because he loves you for all that you are, your personality, your looks but mostly YOU!
All the best,
Oldbiker
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): I think all men are born lookers some more than others. I would not focus on it too much, just let him look. Maybe you can do a little to divert his looks to you, just a thought . good luck
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reader, angelina-katey +, writes (10 April 2008):
angelina-katey is verified as being by the original poster of the question he can look but i don't like the lie , i told hem he can look i got no problem but the lie killing me inside
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): Wisdom is right, as long as both of you follow that rule "never act upon it", then there should be no harm.
When you look ahead of you, it is easy to spot others. Maybe if he either attached a mirror from his head aimed at you, or if he were blind folded and you guided him where he needed to go (art class I had), then he wouldn't look.
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reader, Wisdom  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Darling,
Thats how we know they are alive!! I am married and( am female) I can appreciate other men, as my husband can appreciate other women.... We would never ever act on it but its natural to look... Just dont touch
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Tell him , he can look but don't lie.
Tell him it is not his looking but it is his lying which you take offense.
Then next time , he won't lie to you and you wont have to ask him that question.
All or most males look at other women ,
if they don't look then there is something wrong with him.
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reader, a husband +, writes (10 April 2008):
Though he should be trying to have eyes only for you, he is created to notice beauty in other women...that's how he found you. There is a respectful way to do this, and an disrespectful way.
I suggest you read the book "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn...it will really help you with this, I think.
A Husband
www.iamhusband.com
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female
reader, BigSis +, writes (10 April 2008):
 Angelina, you cannot go through life asking your husband why he's looking at other women. It's a natural instinct. Of course he's going to tell you he wasn't looking because he knows you don't like it or you get upset with him.
As long as a man committed in any relationship ~ be it his girlfriend, fiance` or wife, just looks but not touches, surely he can't be doing any harm. You can't make him cover his eyes for the rest of his life.
My mother and father had a very loving marriage for 50 years, they held so much trust for each other and whenever there were other women around and my father would naturally look, I always remember mum saying to him, 'You can look but don't touch!' and that suited them fine.
I'm sure you are worrying over nothing.
You take care now.
BigSis xXx
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reader, cari  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 P.S: u dont really expect him to tell ya he is lookin at sum other woman are u?its like askin a cheatin husband if hes cheatin on u..dey obviously are gonna deny and we ar so stupid dat we always let it go and after a few days der dey are doin it again!men ar like dat,i hate it!
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reader, cari +, writes (10 April 2008):
i know thats annoyin..my boyfriend dus even worse he compliments women in front of me mostly wen hes drunk and it annoys me so very much but i dont show him that!start doing the same to him i mean..i doesnt matter wat u say hes not gonna stop lukin at other women so act like u dont care and show him how gud it feels wen ur partner luk at sum1 else!
"dus he miss sumtin?"i dont tink so hun,i wud say u know men well by now,for them its just normal to look at other woman,compliment them,watch porn,read nude magazines..dat doesnt necessarly means he wants them or he would drop u for them..im not stickin up for him here,i tink if he really needs to look at other women he sud at least do it when ur not around but dats deir instinct hun...it does not mean they wanna be single again.dats my opinion.
gud luck chick xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): My bf does this too . I dont they can help it.
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