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writes: Dear cupid, there is this girl who I know of and I'm quite worried about her and concerned for my friends, but I don't know if I should stay out of it or start doing something about this. Basically, she is going around and fooling around and having 'flings' with a lot of my male friends. She has tried/gotten with literally over 10+ guys I am friends with. Some of them tell me about this girl and how much they like her and stuff...and in the back of my mind I'm like wow, this girl is involved with a ton of other guys and is up to no good. I know most of them don't really know what this girl is doing, or they just don't really care that she is with a lot of other guys. She tries to get with every guy she meets, I have had several of my friends tell me that have done some type of sexual stuff with her, have seen her naked on skype, have had a 'relationship' with her, there has been naked pics of her going around the internet, etc. I have heard her talk bad about a couple of my friends she has been with, saying she never loved them and has cheated on them and I know she cheats on every guy she has been with. She even knows my boyfriend now...and I'm quite worried about that also.Why does everyone like this girl and want to be with her? She is playing/cheating and have broken the hearts of many of my friends and I feel bad about this whole situation and have never been in this type of situation before. It's like this girl is involved somehow with every one of my friends and I can't go one day without hearing something about this woman. Also now I have been worried about this girl even more because she has recently met my boyfriend :/ and my boyfriend has no idea about this girl...how do I deal with such a situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2013): "Why does everyone like this girl and want to be with her?"Everyone doesn't like her, horny guys looking for an easy lay play up to her because they know she'll put out for anything attached to a penis."how do I deal with such a situation?"Not much you can do. She's not holding a gun to your male friends' heads and forcing them to boink her, and as I guy I'm guessing that they're not as heartbroken about her "cheating" as you might want to believe, as long as they get theirs. If she makes a play for your boyfriend and he has strong morals, values and character, then he will resist her dubious charms. If not, then you know the type of person he really is and that's his loss, not yours.Difficult to believe, but not so long from now you'll feel sorry for her. She'll probably be a single mother left stuck raising her kids on her own left high and dry by long-gone loser sperm donors, her prospects for bettering herself or her kids' circumstances practically zero, and having an unsavory reputation that will be almost impossible to live down. Given her behavior I suspect she probably has had an unhealthy, dysfunctional homelife and so she's a very unhappy, troubled and misguided young woman who is desperately trying to fill the gaping voids in her life any way she possibly can or else possibly lashing out in reaction to childhood abuse. Radical idea, but perhaps you might consider reaching out to her as a person and try to understand what's causing her to engage in such self-destructive behavior. Maybe the one thing she really needs right now is a good female friend.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (29 March 2013):
 If your contentions are correct.... then this girl has become the whore for all of your gang.... It's up to her (and your gang) to decide if they're happy with that arrangement.....
HOWEVER, consider that she may, also, have chosen to be the whore for "others" as well.... and - from the point of view of STDs and their proliferation - EVERYBODY is exchanging body fluids with everybody else... Sort of like a "Russian roulette" game that can actually be fatal.
YOU may bring it up to this girl and/or to your friends.... but, quite frankly, I'd want to stay out of the whole matter....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2013): You don't have her number do you? LOL
Lads like her because, to be crude, shes an easy lay at a time when most of them are just figuring out sex and relationships. Is she popular? YES! Do these lads respect her? Hello no!
SOME lads, but not all by any means, will like her because she is (presumably) attractive, flirts wit the lads and most of them have had a "favour" performed for them. Girls like her because shes popular for the reason ive just stated and want to hang out with her hoping that they too can be as popular as she is (although only some of them will spread their legs so easily).
My advice si tell your BF about this girl. Make him aware this girl is probably a walking STD fest and everyone you know has taken a turn. Will he find that appealing, I doubt it.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (29 March 2013):
 I think there is "linking" a girl and then there is liking a girl.
The girl you are talking about is "popular" with some guys because she acts like a dude and don't seem to get emotionally attached to anyone, but just drift from (to be crude) dick to dick. She on the other hand think she is being looked at as being special, loved, yet I'm willing to bet if she kept her legs closed she wouldn't have as many "friends" to sleep with.
As for your BF and this girl, well DO you trust your BF or not? If you trust him and he respects you and your relationship then he won't touch her with. He won't do anything to jeopardize the relationship.
I don't think it will be long before she will move on to another group of boys.
And IF your BF is going to stray, there is nothing you can do. But if he isn't the kind then just trust he will know the right thing to do.
Not all guys like girls like that, and certainly not all girls want to be with a girl like that.
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