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writes:Just being curious, but why do young male teachers flirt with their female high school students. Is it so they can get them to like them? Do they enjoy watching how we get crushes on them or just for fun?? And of course there's teachers who flirt with certain students even more. Or maybe just with one in particular. Is it because they like them, or they're their favourite, or they have a minor crush on them? I would be very pleased if someone could answer this for me.
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (5 November 2009):
 If you are asking this because of a specific situation, you will probably get more informative answers if you just say what it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, I understand. So they're never crushes? I think, especially amongst the younger teachers, there could be possibly a little crush on one of their female students, but of course the correct thing would be never to act on it.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
Yes, they have favorites, it's only natural. They see a student with a lot of potential or one that reminds them of how they were as a teen, for example. My ex would always have a couple of students each year he would talk about- usually had to do with their talent or horrible home life. When he became a principle, he talked about different teachers and would focus on one or two that he'd help mentor or develop professionally. Most people like to feel a sense of reward in their career and they can't help everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, you're right Ask oldersister. But what about when there's favouritism towards certain students? Do teachers reaaly do have a favourite?? I think they could but I'm not sure if they should make it noticeable.
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reader, katyayni  + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
 Hey, That is very interesting and I think that you might be right.. I never counted the girl's interest in the whole scenario and calmly put the onus on the teacher. Thank You for that wonderful insight Ask oldersister.
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reader, katyayni + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
You are most welcome. Love :)
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
I think eager young girls take almost any attention and think it's flirting! Male teachers have a VERY difficult job and find that being nice or complimenting someone can be misconstrued very easily. My ex was a hot, young teacher and was relieved when he was promoted! All these young girls thought just eye contact and a smile meant they had some sort of "special relationship"- it was ridiculous. He would take every note he got from a crush to the principal but most male teachers fail to do this because they feel sorry for the poor girl- I think that's where the problem is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat's very interesting and I think you might be right! Thanks katyayni!
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reader, katyayni + ♥, writes (4 November 2009):
Hi
You ask a very relevant question. I will share with you my opinion of the matter...
First, few people impress and influence us at a young age, like our teachers. We tend to look up to them and really are under their spell. If a teacher is wise, they will not take this any further and keep the relationship purely that of a teacher and a student. However, if there is little experience on the teacher's side or if there is something missing in the teacher's life and the girl fulfills it... the teacher gets attracted. (of course, I am discounting those jerks that over do the whole teen porn thing and just flirt with young female students to fulfill a part of their sleazy fantasies).
Teachers get attracted because there are very few women that look up to them with the kind of utter trust and faith than the young female students... of course, girls do suffer crushes.. call it biological or being in the constant company of someone more mature than their male classmates...
Perhaps it is no more than the crushes one has over someone.
Why do the teachers flirt? Well, because at the end of the day they are men. And an experienced man might lose thread of the truth that the girl looks upto them as a teacher, not as a man... These things are not meant to be taken seriously at all... But, I remember the time when I studied with extra zeal to score higher in a particular subject... so, it helped me with my life.
There is a delicate balance between the relationship of a teacher and student... and it most be approached with utmost respect.. when teachers compromise their sense of propriety and really go after one single girl... then it is time that the girl took control and told him in no uncertain terms to back off. There is truly nothing more that I can add... except that the teacher is a human male... and when the professionalism is defeated by their instincts (for whatever reasons) they flirt with their students.
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