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writes:Hello, lately I am not understanding my parents. They raised me to get a degree and succeed in education which I did. I recently lost a part-time job due to COVID-19 and am getting interviewed soon for another job. My parents don't want me to take the job, and say I should just keep receiving unemployment. Why would they say this? My family came from hardships and all my siblings worked hard to get to where they need to be. I am the youngest at 24 and want the best for myself and realize that I can't do much without a source of income. Not to mention, I have student loans to pay off. I try to ask why my parents don't want me to work, and they think I am too young and moving too fast to succeed. I have goals of my own and their thinking is making me depressed. Regardless of what they think, I do what is best for myself. I am just curious about their thoughts because they are my parents after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2020): If you want to know their reasons, all you can do is ask them. Just because they're your parents, doesn't mean they're right. Most of us have to work to support ourselves. At the moment, with covid, it is important to also bear in mind whether that work is safe. But with the economy as it is, if someone is offering you a job, it would probably be wise to take it. You can always keep searching for something better
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2020): Ask them again.You may not get the real answer from them, but you'll get AN answer. Maybe they don't think that the job you're being interviewed for is the right choice. These are uncertain times. I worked from home and lost a job just a month before the pandemic hit. It's unfortunate since I have always worked from home and am not exposed to a potential risk of going to the office. After 3 months of working from home, my husband had to go back to the office in June and I worry about him. Because where he works people do not respect the measures as they should. Maybe your parents just don't want you to get the virus?Or... since you're the youngest, they're having a hard time letting go. Once you leave (and that's a sure thing once your career develops) that's it .They will be officially old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2020): Being an adult requires making tough decisions. Your decisions are based on your needs and what will benefit you in the long-run. You are the one who will either suffer or benefit.
Parents often have an inexplicable old-school ideology towards life; and often will base their opinions and decisions on a past-era, or what they've heard circulating from other parents, coworkers, neighbors, and friends.
A lot is happening with this fluctuating and unstable-economy, and you can't depend on uncertain sources of income; or temporary-benefits that run-out at the least opportune or most inconvenient moment in time.
Whatever you decide you'll live with. They are hearing that some people are earning more on unemployment than they made on minimum-wage jobs; and simplified that to mean you'd be better off.
If they know the job is offering you a starting-wage below-par; and at the same-time, the business itself has an uncertain future. They may be assuming, or anticipating, you'll end-up on unemployment-compensation anyway. You don't have to plan your life based on their logic or outlandish theories. If you can get the job, and you know it's not with some fly-by-night upstart-company; take your chances with a receiving a paycheck you've actually worked for. Let compensation go to those still seeking employment; or awaiting their past jobs to call them back. Unemployment is a safety-net, it's not a reliable income.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 September 2020):
 I really don't know. Maybe sit down and ask them? There is a lot of guessing here.
Easier to just ask.
Our oldest got her hours cut down drastically and my husband suggest she apply, and when her hours got back up he suggested she let them know and cut off the unemployment since she doesn't need it.
My guess is, that if you apply, you will have SOME income while you look for work.
Maybe they worry about your health?
Maybe since you are the "baby" they are not really willing to let you go your own way, yet?
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