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writes: My boyfriend and I have been having sex for almost a year now and at first we couldn't get enough of it and I had a high sex drive but now I am suddenly uninterested in it and I cringe if he even tries to touch me. The last time we had sex it felt like a chore to me and I got bored halfway through and stopped, leaving us both feeling unsatisfied. He has confronted me about this and I honestly cannot explain where these feelings of repulsion to sex comes from. I do often worry about pregnancy although I am on the pill but this fear has never really stopped me before. Am I just bored with sex or with my bf or is it a hormonal thing brought on by the pill?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): Hey guys
thanks for answering my question, you have brought up some valid points. I am going to look into all of them. I hate to admit it but I think it might be that i'm bored with things and even tho i love him and need him therez something missing--excitement maybe? I'm always the one who has to take the lead in everything, the only thing i dont initiate is sex
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): Maybe its because its available on a plate anytime and has lost some of the thrill but at your age i think there is more than that. I suggest you start with your gp just to be sure you are ok and healthy (i am sure you are) before going into other possible causes. Then go and do it outside on the beach and in the park. I also suspect your bf isnt spanking you hard enough.
Wait till your in your late thirtys. You wont be able to get enough.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2009): I think you are bored with eack other.
Do you have anything in common with him other than sex?
Sex is more of a bonus in a relationship, its never a relationship. If all you do together is have sex then this was always going to happen.
If you want to fix it then start doing things together. Try three things
1. take an interest in something he likes (not sex)
Follow his favorite sports team for example
2. get him involved in something you like
teach him to dance, youll have great fun and once hes good he will too.
3. and try something new together.
outdoors stuff, collecting or traveling to new places is always fun.
Think of him more as your bestfriend and then you will have more fun. Trust me once this is going on the sex will be much better
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 October 2009):
 What else is going on?
And is the sex being done right for you? Lets face it, most people would not get bored with good physical and mental stimulaton. It would be like being in good rollercoaster and falling asleep halfway through, doesn't happen unless it is a really bad one.
It could be a reflection of your dissatisfaction with the relationship.
It could be you initially were fired up enough on your own and now that doesn't happen anymore and what he does just ain't enough.
Or it could indeed be hormonal. Look at the side effects on your pill and maybe switch to a different type?
What changed? You know, we don't.
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