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anonymous
writes:I don't really know how to go about this but here goes anyways. Ok, so I have this friend that I started hanging out with more and more recently. We hit a rough spot and got evicted from our apartment and she is letting is stay with her and her family and sleep in her son's bed. I found out recently, I found a text message on her phone telling her boyfriend some really disgusting and untrue things about us. Now mind you this girl is a drama queen, she doesn’t have enough trouble in her own life so she likes to make trouble in other people’s. Anyways, this girl tells me that I’m her best friend, yet she went behind my back to her boyfriend and told him that we got into a fight and she threw all my stuff out in the driveway, when in reality we went to hang out and stay the night at my boyfriend’s friend’s house. That was one of the texts. The other one was discusting, but she basically told her boyfriend that we have been having sex all over her 7yr old son’s bed, that we left dirty condoms and empty condom wrappers, bottles of lube, dirty sheets and crusty towels all over her son’s bedroom. This is completely untrue!!! My boyfriend doesn’t even feel comfortable having sex in her house period so we go to a motel or something for the night. I don’t want to say anything to her because I don’t want her to know that I went through her phone because it will just start a fight and I don’t want to fight with her but at the same time I was shocked and disgusted that she could say such horrible things about us. Why do I feel like shit for something SHE said?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2009): That's easy because to some degree you feel like you've done something to cause her to do this. regardless of what it was, or even if you really did do every thing that she said, she shouldn't be talking crap. you need to leave and distance your self from her and then keep it that way. It's never good to have a back stabbing bi@tch as part of your inner circle. owe and stop feeling guilty, guilt is a waste of time.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (25 September 2009):
 You feel that way because she did say some really disgusting things. And I'd feel the same if it happened to me.
Yes, it was wrong to go through her things, but at least now you know the truth about her & the lies she's spreading about you. She is obviously not a true friend to you as she claims to be. Since you don't want to start an uproar with her, I would say to just disconnect yourself from her ASAP if you can, and if you become confronted by someone that has heard the lies...then tell your side, let them know the truth.
You don't need someone like that in your life & remember what goes around, comes back around. She'll get the same treatment from someone else soon enough.
Best wishes!
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