A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Cupid.I am a female in my mid 20s. A few years ago I fell in love with a man that was much older than me, 19 years my senior. I was a student then and he was a visiting guest of the university. Neither of us intended to have feelings for one another but we developed them instantly. After almost 3 years I still think about him sometimes. Nothing ever happened between us and I believe the reason to be that he was uncomfortable with my age despite his attraction to me. I feel as though my self esteem has suffered a major blow because of this. I feel as though my age is an ugly characteristic and I have no way of changing it.I don't know what to do. I haven't heard from him for almost a year and even then our communication was minimal.Why do I continue to think about this man? Help please.
View related questions:
fell in love, self esteem, university Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): He is the one that got away and that is the reason you still think about him. But he has shown you that he is not the kind of man who can support you and love you the way you should be. He cannot get past your age (perhaps) or maybe it is something else or someone else. He is not for you. Don't waste another moment thinking about him. Think about it...if he was sooo perfect wouldn't he be in your life more? Is what you are experiencing anywhere near perfect? Is this the sort of treatment you are content to accept?
|
