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writes:ok well i really need help!!! ive been dating my boyfriend for 1 yr 5 months and his parents didnt like me since day one. they always tell him what to do and they just strangle him around like a rag doll and they never make their mind about liking me or not. they dont even understand a misunderstanding and they also think that i do him the way i want because of a voicemail i left him when we were fighting once. dont you think they need to let him live his personal life and butt out and let him be a normal 17 yr old to be in one month?!!!!! they are also making him choose between me and his parents. his dad is also applting for jobs at washington and new jersey to leave outta the town we live in just to separate us. The people that are against us are his step mom his dad his step sister and his brother i dont know about his day. its been very hard on us he just says he doesnt wanna lose me and he just is trapped i really need advice help me out.........
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I know how you feel believe me and if i knew the answer to this one then it would help me alot too. The bottom line is this; your bf is old enough to make his own mind up and make his own destiny. Obviously and understandably he feels he owes obligations to his parents but they do not extend at this point in his life to letting them totally govern his life.
Unfortunatly you are both at that 'crossing over' stage where formally you needed and depended on the care but are are now moving from that point to where you stand on your own two feet and where it needs to be recognised that the time if ripe for you to make your own way in the world. They are changing their mind because they are torn between letting him make his own way and the fear of losing control and wanting to maintain their rule. Since you have been together for over a year I assume you have made efforts to win them over??
Taking that as a given there is little left for you to do. Be strong. Encourage him to be strong and stand firm because I cant see anything you have done to deserve this. Good luck :)
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