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writes:Hi well i'm 20 years old i'm single have been for a while my main problem is i have no confidence but when i think i do have confidence i always get knocked back by guys.to be honest i'm not sure how to be confident i mean i'm not ugly i'm not like obese or anything i'm a very happy person.just i talk to guys and like they find it easy to talk to me because i'm mellow you know you can tell me anything i'm always like there to help if anyone needs anything i'm a nice person always there for my friends and stuff.so anyways like i can be talking to a guy and stuff and they like tell me they like me and want to meet so i do and fair enough to start with i'm quite shy but i've over come that a bit more now i am sometimes a bit weary about meeting guys because they'll have this picture perfect girl in mind and i'm not picture perfect no-one is, but then they like reassure me they will sitll like me it's not all about looks for them it's personality and they like mine i've been told i do have a great personality but then when it comes to it i meet the guy and then it's like they stop talking to me and stuf until i get the hint.but you know these guys tell me it's all about personality when really it's all about trying to be slim slender and whatever else trying to be a super modal rather than yourself.so my question is why is it when i think i'm getting somewhere with a guy and build up my confidence it gets thrown back at me?i would really appreciate some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers but no i'm not boring thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): Though we can all offer generic advice and opinions, it would be more accurate to pinpoint this 'problem' by looking at yourself. We can have a better perspective on this if you give us information on how you express yourself, how you go about in your relationships and connections, some of your interests, hobbies and the like and the type of men, as well as the characteristics of men you've been going for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): They have to reasure you? You shouldn't be showing any sign of weakeness in how you feel about your apperance. The more you bring it up, the more the other person will start believing in it too.
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