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writes:Me and my partner split up a week ago. I was heartbroken, yesterday he messaged me as he had heard how some guy had told a friend of his he fancied me. He messaged me to tell me about it! My partner ended the relationship, I begged him for another chance but he wouldn't have any of it.My question is, why did he message me to tell me this? We had a conversation about our relationship durning these messages and he just kept saying that he wasn't good enough for me and that I deserve better an how he's a complete waste of space. I loved him with all my heart an never thought he wasn't good enough. We had a good 9 months together. But he works away alot so thought it wasn't working. Does the relationship have any hope or should I move on?I never thought I would hear from him again. But now this has got me thinking that maybe there is hope?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi CaringGuy,
Thanks for your advice, I kind of see your points. It's been a week since we split and I am begining to accept its over. As I know deep down if he did really love me then he would of been back. He knows how I felt about him and I do feel as if he Is doing some of the things that u have said in your message. I'm not going to contact him again now and hold on to any self respect I have for myself!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Your ex sounds like he's going through some issues right now.
You need to allow him to work these out whilst you move on with your life.
It does not sound like there is much hope and you should not waste your time thinking about hope and such things because if it's meant to be it will all work out anyway. What will be will be!
Until then allow your ex to move on (he made his choice) and you move on too.
I know it's not easy, i've recently been through a very similar thing. It is heartbreaking.
However, If you end up hoping too much you never truly get "passed" the relationship and just be hanging on.
You deserve to be happy so don't wait around for him to message again.
I hope this helps!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (15 December 2011):
No hope at all. This ex of yours has quite a few problems with his own head that are causing him to now act desperately and attempt to maintain some sort of control.
He never called you to start a relationship again, he only called to give you false hope because he's able to maintain a sense of control over you. His own confidence in himself is show shattered, that the only way he can feel good in any way is to call you and know that you're still there - even though he'll never come back.
You need to move on from this man. He has no intention of coming back, but every intention of trying to make sure you don't move on. You need to be the one who cuts contact and moves on.
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