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Why couldn't I get hard?

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Question - (30 December 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 2 January 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, *rion writes:

Okay so i had sex for the first time tonight and my girlfriend said she love it and we are doidn it again tomorrow. She seems honest but i really have hard time beliving it because for some odd odd reason i could not get hard.

I was so ready and when we started foreplay i was getting an erection but as soon as she started playing with me i couldnt get it up. she tried oral and and all and i was struggling. once i got it up i would put a condom on and start being soft again it was the worst thing ever i wanted to die. I told her that the condom wasnt working so i put it in without one and while i was in i kept an erection but as soon as i take it out i lose it. i dont understand if it was beacuse i was nervous (whick i was i have a lot of insecurities befor e going into this)or worried about my parents knocking on the door IDK but it better not happen again.

Can anypne help me or have any suggestions why this would be and after all this she said it was amazing i mean she orgasmed a few times but i feel it would be ALOT better if i didnt have tyo focus on staying hard. I worried about so much stuuf when i thought about sex i never thought this would be a problem she gets me hard when she just talks dirty ti me... THIS IS A NIGHTMARE HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010):

You shouldn't be worried about your erection, you should be worried that you could have gotten her pregnant when you put it in without a condom.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009):

well now that you've gotten the awkward "first time" out of the way you shouldnt have that much stage fright. but if you are really starting to have a hard time just think about something else. your girlfriend said she loved it so when you guys do it again tonight, just think about how much you are turning her on, how awesome it feels, how her body feels next to yours. that should help keep the erection. just because you might not feel all that confident at first, i'd suggest just looking at her body, touch it, feel it, appreciate everything you love about it. maybe also try a different position? one last thing, find a private place. on top of all that your worried about, you dont need the possibility of someone walking in on you.

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