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writes:so i met this girl back in early october, 2009, she was with another dude at the time but then broke up with him, we were getting really close and all, she was my best friend and i was hers, after she broke up with that dudes we got really close, and she knew that i wanted to be her bf, and she said she was interested in me in that way too, but then out of nowhere comes this guy and he pretty much snatches her up and she falls flat over heels for him. long story short she said that if it doesn't work out with him she'd be interested in being with me. The problem is/ shes with a real dickhead who's always mean to her and makes her sad all the time. i mean i'd still be heart broken if she was with a good guy but, atleast she'd be happy... anyway i just felt like letting it out to total strangers instead of someone i know. maybe you people can give me some type of advice? anyway sorry for the long message.
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reader, Ad@m +, writes (24 August 2010):
Ad@m is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all very much for the help, I'm surprised so many responded.
so what do i do just leave her? disapear from her life? because i dont think i can really do that. i mean i think/thought she was the one... its true i am confused about it all, but i dont want to just say "okay forget u", I do agree with a lot of you people tho, it does look quite bad. but is there some way i could just get her to come back? otherwise that guys going to skrew her up horribly in life. that and shes like my soul m8... i just don't know. never dated someone before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): I agree i think she is takin advantage for your kindness
no one deserves to be second best even if it deosnt work out wit this guy wat makes u think she wont just use use you then go for the next guy
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Ad@m, all these people are totally right, this girl doesn't appreciate you. And there are plenty of nice girls out there who will. Never settle for someone who thinks you're second best, you know yourself you deserve better than that.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 August 2010):
Sadly, some girls just love their idiots and bad boys. Your so called friend is one of them. I say so called friend, because she's treating you like the safety net, rather than as a friend. She claims that if it doesn't work out with him, she'll be with you. Not only is that a total lie, but says to me that she thinks your second best. You're not the only nice guy to sit there wondering what you're doing wrong. I asked the same questions too when I was a teenager. A few years later, and I have a brilliant girlfriend. The same will happen to you. Focus on yourself, be a decent guy and at some point a decent girl who actually doesn't just use you will come along.
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reader, TalonZurfluh  +, writes (23 August 2010):
if it doesnt work out with him then shell settle for you. BULL. dont let her settle for you, take her. Nice guys dont always come last. girls love nice guys, especially when there manly and know when to stand up for themselves. if i were you, id tell her straight up how you feel. if she says she wants a man, knock out her boyfriend. then, your the bigger man, and the nice guy. this plans sure to work
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 August 2010):
 "she said that if it doesn't work out with him she'd be interested in being with me"
That's a flat out lie dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2010): Nice guys finish last. You wonder why she won't go for the nice guy but who says she really WANTS a nice guy?
Just because she says she does not like the way her BF treats her, that means nothing. Her actions tell the real story and her actions are telling you she would rather be with him than you.
You need to move on and get another girl. Forget this one, she is too immature to want someone who treats her well yet. After a few years of this she might learn but don't bet too much on it.
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