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writes:why do some guys treated some girls like dirt and others like queens? What's the difference?why do they hurt some girls feelings and not others.boys sensible answers no jerk like remarks needed! Reply to this Question
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reader, gatorgirl0307  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 I think some of us just went to the wrong gym class. Some girls are cutie pies and use their feminine wiles, and some are the dependable ones that are represented by their achievements. It doesn't matter how pretty you are, if you are sensible, guys seem to take that for granted.I'm told that I am hot, annd funny and smart, but I also attract guys that don't remember events such as birthdays, anniversaries, etc. They tell me all of the time how wonderful I am but when it comes down to it, I am alone for the sentimental things. I am told that I am SO thoughful that everyone else pales in comparison, and that it makes others look bad. Hmm. No, I just remember how much it hurts when people don't remember, and I don't want others feeling bad. Whatever. I always want to treat others the way they treat me, but can never seem to be mean to others. I guess the answer is to keep to myself, lower my expectations, and minimize damage.
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reader, DuncanGreen +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Like an apple on the ground, some girls are easy to acquire. Not coincidentally, they are also easily disposed of, or treated like jerks.
However, a girl that respects herself, and is not easily acquired, like an apple at the top of the tree, will naturally weed out the jerks that seek to gain her. A jerk will only try so hard to get her before giving up and moving on to an easier prey.
As a result, when a guy does finally take the time to climb up the tree, to reach his apple, he will appreciate his treasure; he didn't acquire his apple easily, but had to put work into getting it. Thus, he will savor his apple, and treat her like a queen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): orginal post:
i thinks nice girls get targeted as not being good enough by she likes who doesn,t not like her.but he likes other girls that way.it pretty unfair don,t you think
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): It really isn't something you can judge except on an individual basis. Some guys are jerks and treat women like crap, and some women are jerks and treat guys like crap. The important thing is to step back now and again and evaluate yourself and the guy in question. What is it that he's doing that you consider jerk-like? What could you be doing to contribute to it? (It may be nothing, by the way) And then talk to him about it if you still want to be in the relationship. If that is in question then you need to step back from your feelings and evaluate things and decide if he is worth it. A good guy treats his love the way she deserves to be treated: with respect. The most important thing of all to remember is NOT TO GET BITTER. It's easy to do, we're feeling creatures and when our feelings get hurt it's a natural reaction, but when we get bitter we lose a lot of opportunities for happiness, and sabotage ourselves. If this happens to you often and you aren't doing anything directly, ask yourself: "what signals am I sending out into the world?". My friend for the longest time was dating creeps and jerks, and was really unhappy. She realized the trend, though, and realized that she hadn't thought that she was good enough to be attractive to the "good" guys. I don't know you, but I'll say this: you ARE attractive enough to get a "good" guy! Love yourself, and be yourself. "Good" guys are out there having the same problems you are, so don't settle for anything less than what you want :)NamasteNathan
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): I think you are having way too much of bitter feelings inside you.
We are all nice people in a way.You need to believe that.Just because some one hurts you,that doesn't make them bad.
I suggest counseling as soon as possible.This kind of negativity can harm you and slowly eat you from inside.
All the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): orginal post :
sorry about my english
some times there guys out to impress their freinds(male)
and him self.by asking out the ultimate babe and i repeated not be rejected.and he happy himself he successed .whiles the other girls do like him but he doesn,t wnat them becasue she is not what he wants in girlfeind.
would some girls go out with any guy who asks just to have a boyfreind.i,d do that,just to have one no matter what he like a jerk or nerd.
i would go out with a guy i don,t fancy i really would.
a give to say i have a boyfreind,
jerks have tendy to sexy and attrative and very laid back option themselves.can have girl he wants as gilfreind well till she find out about the monster that lerking beneath the cute face and sexy ,body and charm.
is that why jerkd have so many girlfreinds and yet none stay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): People are gray.No one is black or white.
A guy who may be great in some things may be equally rotten in some other things.
The trick to make a guy treat you like a queen is to trust him and expect only good out of him.
When he realizes you see the good in him,he will feel ashamed if he ever treats you badly.
Slowly he realizes that you accept him as you are.Watch the change that your trust in him brings.
Do not nag or be controlling.Freedom is very important for a guy.As long as he doesn't cheat on you who cares if he wants a beer night out with his friends?
When a woman is secure with herself,the jealousy disappears.When a guy has a secure and confident woman in his hands,he starts treating like her a queen.He doesn't want to lose her come hell or high water.
Hope this helped.
Merry Christmas Dear!May the pain in your heart get healed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): actually not all guys are jerks..you see what happens with girls is that no matter how much they say that they want honest sincere and a guy who treats her good, they actually fall for the jerks..what i have seen in life (with my buddies) the guy who truly loves the girl ends up losing her to a jerk who is just using her for time pass..so i guess you just need to look in the right place..some ppl u cosider are not cool may end up being the most romantic u ever meet
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reader, MetalMan  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 some guys are jerks as many people well know. they can become slaves to thier lust and become assholes but thier are also plenty of very nice guys out there. but i dont think i can place all the blame on guys or the girls coz yea guys can be jerks but some girls know instinctivly how to contol jerks so i'd say maybe it's guys who are assholes but also girls who command respect from them. i dont really know but thats my theory, to find out properly you'd have to ask said jerk and ask and those sort of jerk wont help you at all (this is from experience with these sort of guys. bullying that is not romantic lol)
i suppose that people do tend to treat you how you allow them to but some people are just assholes
(pardon the french in my post btw . . . . err well not actualy french . . you know it's an expression . . . . just excuse the bad language)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): "People will treat you the way you allow them to" that's the truth in a nutshell..
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 December 2008):
 Some girls do not allow themselves to be treated poorly, so boys cannot hurt them. This means that they seem to be treated as if they were queens. They can tell if a boy is a jerk or untrustworthy or immature or lacks character, so they do not let this boy get close to them.
Other girls allow themselves to be hurt, they try so hard to please and secretly want to be thanked for it, but perhaps they choose a boy who is selfish and will take what he wants without feeling guilty. They may have trouble seeing a boy's true character clearly, because he is charming and handsome and has lots of friends.
People will treat you the way you allow them to. Hope this helps!
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