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*aren30
writes:we are together for 7 years, early this year i found out that he cheat on me with his co-worker 23 yrs old woman ( he is 31) and i thought i was over but it still continues. the mistress spend their get away because we are poor, and his salary is good for us. but last week i saw the mistress and confront her, my husband arrive shortly and he choose the mistress than us... later i pack my bags and leave him with my daughter, and him left the house of the in-laws because he is force to leave the house because of what happen... but he always want to talk to me and seek help because he lost his job...and he wanted to see me.( but surely he wants to see me bacause he is broke)... why i still help him and my love is still the same even he choose the mistress.. help me to move on ... or we can be reconcile? I'm so confuse ....
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reader, mooh  +, writes (16 August 2012):
You are completely lucid of the situation but i know it is difficult to accept the reality and to move on especially when you still have feelings.
You don't owe your ex-husband anything... Only time will heal your heart and i think that once you move on, you will have had regrets on helping your ex out when you are aware he is trying to manipulate you for money (because he is probably also aware you still love him).
The faster you distance yourself from him, the sooner you can get over him and find someone that has respect for you!
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reader, karen30 +, writes (16 August 2012):
karen30 is verified as being by the original poster of the question yes it is and i need more encouragement to face this. and move on. and the mistress is so ugly and short. and i don't know why he picks the girl
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2012): how i can i move on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 August 2012):
 No I don't think you could both move past this and get your marriage back on track again, he has no love or respect for you, because if he respected you he never would have cheated on you and if he loved you he would have picked you over his mistress.
He has lost his job now and he needs financial support from you, he thinks that because you still love him you will be soft and let him walk all over you. But please don't be as you deserve so much better than this loser.
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