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51-59,
anonymous
writes:why am i feeling like this,i split with my partner of 15 years then after 2 years we got back together again,it was good in the beginning,now i dont feel happy again i dont know why,he is a good man.i keep having panic attacks and anxiety.an ex recently contacted me then i never heard from him so now im pining for this guy dont know why.im 47 perhaps its the menopause i dont know.
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reader, raiders  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 your happiness should not depend on you having a man by your side. You might think that at 47 you need to have someone there so that you don't grow old alone, but you need to think on you, love you, focus on your own happiness. There was a reason why you broke off a 15 year relationship, maybe that reason was never fix but you keep on holding to the thought of not being alone that you accepted him back. Put yourself first and have confidence and maybe try going to a therapist.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 October 2010):
I don't think this is the menopause. I think that you're losing focus on your own life. You could have Mr Perfect in your life, and you'd still be unhappy, because you'e placing far too much emphasis on having a guy in your life to make you happy, and not focusing on making yourself happy and satisfied. You were unhappy, so you split. You were unhappy, so you got back together, You're unhappy, now you're looking at another guy to make you happy.
Basically, I don't think you have enough in your own life. I think you need to do more for your own satisfaction, and more for your own happiness. Look at your work, your friends, your hobbies. Look to volunteer to help people or something.
But please stop placing emphasis on having a man around to make you happy. Your current partner can't do it, and this ex won't make you happy either. You'll wind up with him, lose your partner again (who will not come back for a second time), and then split from your ex because you'll still be unhappy.
Do more for your own life, and place less emphasis on men.
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