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writes:Dear Cupid,Im 18. He's 20. We've been dating for about a month. Met up three times during the month, two of them which were dates.He hasnt made any move other than putting his arm around me on the bus journey home, feeding me icecream in the cinema and giving me reallyyy tight hugs when saying goodbye.I've only ever kissed one guy before and we kissed on the second date so I was wondering when does the first kiss usually happen.3rd/4th/5th/6th date? etc..He seems to be taking things slow which is not an issue for me, just wondering about other peoples experiences. Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 If you trust the movie "Hitch" it's the 3rd date. I'd say that's fairly accurate. If it was a great first date I may go for a kiss, but probably a hug. Really, it boils down to confidence, how well you hit it off, and how comfortable he is with you.
It sounds like things are going well. I wouldn't worry if it doesn't happen on your next date. If it takes longer than you had hoped, there is nothing wrong with you initiating it either.
How about this, if he finishes your next date with a hug, give him a kiss on the cheek and let him know you're looking forward to your next date. Maybe that will light the fire under him!
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 For me, usually second or third. If it dosent happen soon it may never happen. Or it could be that he's shy or even you giving the shy signal without even knowing. Next time you see him give him a kiss on the cheek when you first meet and then again when be goes. Hopfully that will make him think you are ready.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 October 2010):
 It happens when the moment feels right, and isn't bound by any time limit. Some kiss the first date, others need some more time to get to know the other better and to feel that it is right and wont be embarrassing.
As for dates Im not a "dater" and have no idea what you mean by x number of dates. You just mean when you hang out? Because a restaurant isn't exactly a great place to kiss. If you want a kiss you should go somewhere where you are both relaxed and comfortable, like a walk, or a movie at home etc. But not sure if you would call that "dates".
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (27 October 2010):
 Hmmm well it is different for everyone, some guys have gone in for the kiss with me after the first date, others have waited for weeks!
So I dont think you are going to get a definitive date for when this kiss is going to happen, but it does sound like your guy is taking things very slow as you have been dating for a month already.
Just try and help him along as much as you can, be a bit touchy feely with him (put your hand on his arm if you are sat next to each other, or when you are walking hold his hand etc), and try and maintain a close proximity as much as you can. He might just be a bit shy and nervous, so if you can give him as many signals as you can then that will help. Even when you have hugged good night, pull away slowly with your arms still around him, and look into his eyes, then see if he looks down at your lips. This is generally an indicator if someone wants to kiss you, so if he does this then at least you know he wants to kiss you!
But most of all, try not to worry about it too much. It will happen naturally I'm sure, he might just need a bit of time. Dont force anything, and dont make him feel pressured into it. Just relax, enjoy each other's company and it will happen in time.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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