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writes:Hi , I am a born again virgin who has not had sex in ten years I am a young woman still I just turned 41. I want to get back to the love making days but now it's kind of hard to trust people now. I want to get married now and I just haven't ran up on any one now who I think is right for me. Advice plz:) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): Thanks for the feed back it's all so true. I just used born again virgin because I have been without sex for ten years. I know there is no such thing as that just words of a phase .Yes Mr.Eddie it has been ten years I don't plan on having sex until I meet the right man but I do get out I guess not enough I want God to send him my way and hopefully he will find me. Thanks
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (24 November 2012):
 If you really wish to remain sex-free until marriage you should consider using a religious-based web site such as christianmingle.com. They put together other like-minded people into relationships, much like match.com or eharmony, but the emphasis is definitely on being christian and dating.
I agree with Honeypie's answer is that you do have to put yourself out there. Dating is hard -- and finding someone you truly connect with is even harder. The older we get, the slimmer the pickings in general, because people are pretty well set in their ways or already married. It seems to become more about finances and convenience rather than true bonding (although there are always exceptions to the rules).
Find your interests and pursue them. Often times you'll find other singles doing the same thing. Find activities you enjoy doing that involve other people: dancing, running, exercise, fitness, golf, etc. You can also use meetup.com to find groups in your area where people are getting together to have fun.
Also, be sure you want to stick with your born-again virgin routine. Many guys don't have patience for that. I am not saying to give yourself away for free, but you definitely lower your odd of finding someone if you say you are holding out for marriage. I do believe there is a time and place where a relationship needs to go to the next level so that both people know they are truly compatible.
Eddie
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 November 2012):
 What exactly is a born again virgin?
Not having sex for 10 years doesn't make you a virgin IMHO
But I guess that is not the main question here. I would suggest you get out there, take some classes, find a hobby and meet people with some of the same interests. Or if you are really brave, try online dating.
A decent guy isn't going to drop by your mail box. You have to put yourself out there.
Don't be scared, but be smart and stay safe.
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