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writes:Girl 1.She is attractive quite popular and seems to be nice enough and I really like her.I have never spoken to her though:(Girl 2.Likes me in that way and is a nice person kind and funny.I don't like her in that way and she is not as popular or attractive about average. Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds  +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Dude, chicks might care about popularity, but no guy ever should. Why would you care whether or not she has lots of friends? Only things that matter are her personality and her looks.
So, the first chick, you like because she's hot. You don't speak to her, so you have no idea if she's nice, or if she's only nice to her friends - you just imagine she is because that's what you'd like.
The second chick, you aren't attracted to. You say she's average-looking. Does that mean average-looking compared to the other girls around her, or average-looking considering what you are capable of getting? It's important to honestly examine how attractive you are, too. She may well be above-average for what you can pull. Or maybe not - really take the time to think about it.
Still, if you're not attracted, you're not attracted. Try to get to know girl #1, but also try to meet other girls. Explore your options, but get an good idea of what you're going for before you pick one. Keep your feet on the ground, and base what you know on what you have evidence for, not what you'd hope for. Good luck.
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reader, ck9779 +, writes (18 February 2011):
Wow. If you base being with a girl soley on her looks and popularity, you are not ready for a relationship sweetheart.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Better by what measure? What you're rating is extremely superficial.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Who cares which one is "better" whatever that means. Go play some football with your pals, you'll have more fun.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (18 February 2011):
Better for whom? For you? I would choose the less mature of them. I know you are young, but it's about time you learn that being with someone you don't like is a insult to her and to you.
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reader, MelonieeKathrynnn-x +, writes (18 February 2011):
 Girl 2.
You know her and you have a better friendship so if you broke up for example you could still be friends afterwards so girl 2
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