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writes:Where do I begin? Amidst the end of my summer of 2007, my girlfriend of 3+ years decided to call it quits with me. We had a typical relationship with the usual tumultuous times that any relationships goes through, but for the most part, we enjoyed each other's company and loved each other compassionately. However, she felt I was too criticizing towards the things she enjoyed and/or things she found interest in and that she never really got to express herself physically (e.g. clothing preferences and fashion) and mentally (e.g. her interest in morbid things, such as death, afterlife, her interest in forensics and working around lifeless bodies) and be her true self. A week prior to the official break-up, she expressed a subtle desire to explore her lesbian side (oOo did I 4get to mention she was bi-sexual while we were dating? Well it plays a big role in the break-up). She had a met a girl on a particular social networking website (I refuse to mention which, although it should be obvious) that she seemed fascinated with, so I expressed to her that if she had really liked this girl, then we could take a break as a couple for a week and she could get to become better acquainted with the girl and if she felt that she wanted to pursue something with her after the week was up, then we would officially end it on mutual terms.A week goes by and I hear nothing from her, so eventually, I get in contact with her to find out she wasn't able to reach out to me because the girl had been sleeping over at her house (she claims in a non-sexual way because her guardian was in the wrong, but to this day, I still question...) the entire week, so it was apparent that it was over, but I asked her to confirm...and my worse fear became reality..well, to cut the story short, the months afterwards have been really difficult..I've attempted to maintain a moderate friendship with her, but the rare times we converse, we're at each other's last nerve...and she continuously throws her new found contentment in my face. I love her...but idk if she still feels the same way for in anyway (friend, associate, lover). What do I do now? How do I fight back? Do I continue to attempt a friendship even though it seems she is nothing but callous?
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reader, Karlos Omnis  +, writes (29 October 2007):
 From the way you referred to some of her interests and her sexual preference, it seems like there is a lot of bitterness on your side.It would be advised the best course of action would be to have some time alone to deal with the hurt you're undoubtedly feeling, before you lash out and burn all your bridges.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (29 October 2007):
 It sounds like your relationship has run its course. It is time to let go and move on. I would not continue contacting her and trying to reestablish a friendship. I say send her a Christmas card, and you can be polite if she contacts you but I would forget about her, focus your attention elsewhere.
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