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writes: Hi guys and girls!! Well I am a bit embarassed to be putting this on here as it is a very personal thing, and hope that some people can give some constructive advice. Or reassure me that I am relatively normal...if there is such a thing!!!Thing is when I masurbate, I nearly always fantasize that I am the man and get turned on when I imagine that I have a penis and that I am playing with it. I've often wondered what it feels like for a man, I have NO desire to be with a woman, am not attracted to them. In the past when I have been in a realtionship, I used to get off on thinking about my b/f when getting himself off and what it might be like to have intercourse. I used to try and listen outside the door to hear him masturbating, which was a MAJOR turn on especially when he thought I wasn't there!Anyway, thanks in advance for your thoughts on this!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Eek! I have the exact same thing happen to me!
Someone plz answer this question!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2008): The sci-fi series Babylon 5 featured a sub-group of humans who were telepathic. In one episode a female telepath described to a "normal" human what it was like to have sex with another telepath, how you could sense what your partner was feeling and what turned him on, etc.
I think you can imagine how hot that would be. I doubt they would ever leave their room!
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reader, Jman +, writes (7 January 2007):
I agree with the other statements. As guys we often wonder what it is like to have a vagina, and the first thing I would do if I woke up as a girl would probably be to play with myself. Its just the mystery of what it would feel like.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2007): Hahaha Awesome! I do it all the time! Im so glad someone else does too... so I guess it isnt quite so uncommon afterall!
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reader, Master of Problems +, writes (3 January 2007):
I think that it is so normal. Sometimes I wonder what girls feel when they masterbate. But then I come back to reality and realize that i'm not a girl and am never going to feel what a girl feels. Everyone does it at one point or another.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007):
Ok, so if everyone thinks its normal if she summoms up these fantsies in her mind and masterbates about them, it begs the question about whats supposed to be so different if she watched porn and got off on that?
Are we all agreed now that that is normal and acceptable too?
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Oh my God, I have the exact same fantasy. Only sometimes mine get even more carried away with the penis idea. Maybe I have penis envy, I don't know. But yeah, you're totally normal.
Either that or we're BOTH weird.
Enjoy sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2007): I am the original poster. Thanks...(breathes a sigh of releif..!!)for that, isn't it funny the things we worry about??!! xx
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reader, Evangeline  +, writes (3 January 2007):
 This Fantasising is completely normal. A fanatasy can be about anyone or anything - a quick thought that pops up in your head or a long, detailed story. Thinking about what its like to be a man while having sex is the same as thinking about what it would be like to have sex with famous pop star etc.
It also doesn't mean that you want this to happen - even subconciously. Its more about exploring the boundaries of your imagination than anything else. Like you said, the thought of beign with a women in real life would horrify you - and yet you still fantasise about having sex with one. When this happens it is common to feel disgusted with youself and wonder how you even thought of such a thing, let alone get excited!
Very common, completely normal, and popular fantasies include:
Having sex with parents, brothers and sisters, with close friends, with strangers, with people you dont like, with animals, bing licked by an animal, being a prostitute, etc. (Some of these do sound very weird or 'not normal' but believe me they are!)
The only time you should worry about fantasies is if they are very violent or get more violent - for example if you get turned by thinking about hurting or killing animals or people - in that case you would need to talk to a therapist or councillor etc.
But don't worry you sound perfectly normal so enjoy!
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reader, Lilly223 +, writes (3 January 2007):
 Sure it's normal... if it turns you on and it helps you, why not? I think all of us wonder what it would be like to be in the other persons "shoes". Since it is impossible to truly find out, then imagination is the next best thing. Fantasize away, and don't feel guilty about it. What you are doing is harming no one, and I would consider that in it's self normal and okay.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (3 January 2007):
 i think alot of people think i wonder what its like to be in the oposite shoes..we all have different fantasie and turn ons i dont think its wrong ure just curious in my opinion and get turned on by different things hope this helps xxx
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