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writes:Is this a bad sign in a relationship? My boyfriend kissed another girl one drunken night over a month ago now and although i was extremely hurt, he made an great effort to make it up to me and i kept our relationship going. I've been rebuilding trust in him and i do love him, he's the only guy i want to be with... Sometimes however, since he cheated, during any low points in our relationship, i can't help but think of this other guy i vaguely know and am simply friends with. He's a really good bloke and I sometimes can't help wonder what it'd be like in a relationship with him. BUT, I only ever have these thoughts during a low point which does not occur often. Directly after i found out my boyfriend had cheated for example i thought of him, however most of the time since things have in improved with my boyfriend i have not thought of this other guy at all and i know my boyfriend is the only one i want to be with. I would definitely never ever cheat and do what my boy did to me so that's not what this is about, i'm just wondering if it's a bad sign that i think about this other guy on the rare occassion when i am feeling not happy...
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (23 August 2007):
 It's probably just your mind's way of telling yourself that you have options, should the going get too rough. I wouldn't worry about it but don't dwell on this other guy either. It could get in the way if you continue to think about him. Where the thoughts wander, the feet will eventually follow, so take command over your thoughts. And your b/f should take command over his actions. Being drunk does not give good excuse for cheating on someone, it just shows lack of self-control. Hopefully he's learned his lesson. Good luck.
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