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writes:When it comes to dating or falling inlove does age really matter? Would 10 years difference really matter? For example a 20 year old and a 30 year old. That is a 10 year difference so would it matter if the age gap is that big? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks carrot. I have been thinking about this and i think that it is just probably a crush. I will get over it and i just think that it is one of those things i have to experience in life so that i can learn from it. I do not think that an older person would be a great idea because in such a situation each party wants different things in the relationship and that could cause problems.
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reader, Carrot2000  +, writes (4 May 2010):
 It depends. I think the gap between 20 and 30 is pretty large, only because of the potential differences in maturity level. The 20 year old is still in college or still trying to figure out their life's path where the 30 year old is closer to figuring things out.
My father was significantly older than my mother and they had issues in their marriage because of this. He provided stability because he was more established, but he also had expectations of her that she just couldn't live up to; he expected her to be more settled, she wanted to hang out with her girlfriends and have fun. At one point she found his "maturity" refreshing, but in time she grew to feel stifled by it.
Relationships involve a lot of pieces: caring about the other person, attraction, time spent together. Maturity level, shared interests and priorities are all important- a lot of love isn’t enough to make up for disconnects in those areas. Still, a significant age gap is going to have issues that other relationships don’t. I suppose a relationship with a big age difference can work as long as it keeps growing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your guys help. I asked this because someone i know made a joke about me and him getting married and then his uncle asked me if its true and i said no because he is older than me but i only said that because he has a gf. So that scenario just made me wonder. And wonder what my parents ought to say if i dated a guy 10 years older than me
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): When it comes to love, age difference does not matter AT ALL as long as you both happy.
We only have once chance at life, why should anybody be asked to pass up a chance at being happy just because of an age difference. It makes no sense.
Don't let age hold you back, go love and be loved :)
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reader, Brunel  +, writes (1 May 2010):
So your potential b/f is 10 yeasr older than you? It makes no difference at all what makes the differences is what it is you both want from a relationship? Be sure that he does not see a 10 year younger gap as mere street cred for him.
You be sure it is what you want?
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