How do I support my parents when it all goes wrong?
Q. I'm really worried about my parents. My mum is 46 and my Dad is 63. The relationship between my parents has gone down the drain. They haven't slept in the same bed for about 12 years. I know for a fact my Mum doesn't love my Dad (even though she...
A. 16 May 2010: Hells Bells Ebony - you have enough problems and I am going to admonish you now. Some people here talk a load of clattrap! You are the important perosn here and you cannot do anything whatsoever to change what is happening to your parents. Y... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to marry his new girlfriend!
Q. I was dumped by my ex boyfriend in August last year. He did it via email and sms. Refused to answer my calls. Even when I went to his place to look for him, he refused to see me. He told me we are not suitable. His friend pitied me and told me he ...
A. 16 May 2010: Hold up here there is nothing evil about you Ms you are merely having issues getting over this which may suprise you is all to normal for lots of us in this situation/s. I am not at all suprised that you feel so hurt and abandoned by a boy who is ... (read in full...)
Can I believe what he tells me or is he just playing with my emotions?
Q. i need some advice here. I have known a guy for the last three years. At first he was my boss and then i trianed and am now the same level as him and still work for thhe same company although a different location. when we worked together i never...
A. 16 May 2010: Poor you I do not know what either of you want and why are you still waiting for whom or what –you must have been out with other guys? You are flattered by his attention and worse you are in love with him completely besotted – don’t see mentio... (read in full...)
Want to spice things up with a lapdance but unsure how to do it, or right time!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been together three and a half years, we have quite a good sex life but sometimes it feels like i want to do something different to spice it up. I have heard that one thing that might work is a some kind of sexy dance you ...
A. 10 May 2010: Why doesn't he spice things up? What I must enquire is which one of you is bored, if it is you then a temporary fix like this is no more than that.
You would not look stupid because you are very fit and sexy! He may prefer the delectab... (read in full...)
How do I get him to stop being my friend and tell me that he loves me?
Q. I worked hire a man, got him over to this country and after 2 great years started writing him and we have developed a very great friendship. He lives on the other side of the country, and is waiting for his company sponsored green card. I go to see ...
A. 9 May 2010: My dear lady I hear alarm bells ringing here and you need to sit down, take a deep breath and validate just where we are today. You are putting a whole life time into him and it is pretty clear to me that he is not interested in being any more t... (read in full...)
Hes got a gf, is there no chance now? (I'm gay)
Q. Im so confident, and comfortable with myself. BUT I fall in love to easily. Its starting to hurt. Theres one boy. Everyone says were cute together. I love him and I flirt with him all the time. But just yesterday he got a gf. Is there any chance for ...
A. 9 May 2010: Yes give up!
You are to young to know what you are yet, so just slow down and focus on study not relationships at this point of your life.
Education is what is important now not whom you might look 'cute' with? ... (read in full...)
Disgusted and hurt but ultimately confused
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 months and while we've had our ups and downs, he never gave me a reason to not trust him.. However, I found something suspicious on his facebook chat and my paranoia got the better half of me and I ende...
A. 9 May 2010: Voice mail my you must be realy angry, delete all and everything to do with him and visit and an STD clinic?
It might just be that serious and find someone next time that is worthy of you?... (read in full...)
Drugs and cheating tore us apart but I still love him
Q. Hello, My ex and I fell in love at first sight - or at least in lust! After two weeks we started going out with each other and it was wonderful. I worked seasonly and had to go back to tour guiding in Spring. He was upset about this but wee said we ...
A. 9 May 2010: Well it is kinda obvious to me?
You are intelligent, loyal, talented, proactive, keen on a career, prepared to give so much of yourself? I bet you are fit and good looking as well?
I am right so far that is how sure I am!
Well then give ... (read in full...)
How do I get this depressed feeling out of my chest?
Q. Hello I'm soo depressed and I feel is killing me inside. Sometimes I wake up feeling ok and others days feeling down and I throw up and I dnt even eat. How can I make or what do I do so I won't think negative. When I think negative is when I get ...
A. 9 May 2010: Yes! I will meet you under the clock at Paddington Station at 1500 hrs and we will go and get ratted?
You need to tell us a little bit more as to how you have got to this point today?
What is your love life like? What do you do for a livi... (read in full...)
I am really, really Jealous and grossed out about my wife's past sex life
Q. I have been with my wife for 5years, we have been married for 4 years. I love her with all my heart. I love her so much that I believe if we had met at any time in my life no matter what I was doing or what I had going on at the time, I would have ...
A. 9 May 2010: Gosh this is all causing you a lot of angst. You must try to work out why this has happened just now and not before? Is there something else that you are not telling us.
She has lived a very complicated life but it is in the past and may well... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but she is totally overbearing
Q. Hey guys, I never post on these types of sites, but I have been searching the web for answers, because I am just torn and confused as to what to do: I am a 25 year old male law student, and have been with my girlfriend for 3 1/2 years. I love h...
A. 9 May 2010: Suggest you take a 4 week break from each other and see how you feel then?
Your career is far more important than she is now!
Admot it too you are not that bothered about losing her!... (read in full...)
How can I get my b/f in the mood?
Q. Hey i was wondering when me and my bf are away from each other we mostly text or talk on the phone, well most the time when i want to talk about sex il say some thing like "im cold come here and warm me up or im hot help me cool off" Do you have any ...
A. 9 May 2010: I do not know what you want and you do not make sense?
Why do you have to do anything you are not his servant or his whore?
If as it seems he has gone off the boil that says it all it is time for you to be looking elsewhere while you are st... (read in full...)
He says I have a special place in his heart..what does that mean?
Q. i have intense feelings for my close friend-we have the deepest conversations and get on amazingly well. he calls me 7/8 times a day and we're always on the phone for ages. i know i love him but cant ask if he feels the same way as hes told me hes ...
A. 9 May 2010: Tell him to piss off and find someone in life that does want you. You flatter him and massage his ego at the moment?
Can't you see how he is using you?... (read in full...)
Advice on handling an ex and little to no contact
Q. As some of you here know my ex broke up with me 2 months ago but we've been going in and out of contact since about 3 weeks ago when she initiated contact with me asking whether I'm thinking about her and missing her. She was very eager to talk that ...
A. 9 May 2010: Look it is over ignore her or tell her to naff off and leave you alone. This action is normal while she hangs on to for a while just in case things go not work out? Say Bye Bye to her forever, do not ever contact me again - erase the number... (read in full...)
Is there potential for a lasting, healthy relationship?
Q. I met this wonderful man on Match.com and we really connected. He is 40. I am 32. We started going out over a month ago. For some reason, I felt really comfortable with him and revealed alot about myself to him right away: the fact that I was ...
A. 9 May 2010: Find someone else as this is over - come on - you know that realy you just want to keep the dream alive.
I do not think that this issue of yours is finished ? Have you joined a group that can help you put this behind you as by what you have tol... (read in full...)
Wont have sex but keeps getting off 2 porn!
Q. hi i am a 26 year old woman and i am with a man 17 years older than me. for a while now he keeps making every excuse you could think of so he dosnt have to sleep with me. he might look for it once or twice a month and expects me to be all on for ...
A. 9 May 2010: Well Sophie the question is more about what you want not how can we resolve his wanking isues?
I think it is time for you to ditch him I encourage charity work but how dare he think it is OK to use you when iy suits him.
With that name you c... (read in full...)
Do I leave my wife and child for this affair?
Q. Should I stay with my wife and child or not? I cheated on my wife with a woman from work. The affair has been going on for about 1 month. The affair would have continued but I recently moved across the country for work. Our marriage was in ...
A. 9 May 2010: Well you are a complete prick let us get that out of the way first. I am noy sure that is strong enough but the way you describe what is happening makes me think you are also a complete wanker!
1 month and it is OK just to give up - six years ap... (read in full...)
We adore each other and have been good for each other but I can't be intimate with him because I'm a lesbian
Q. Hi there everyone, I really need some advice. I've been with my boyfriend for about 6 months now and I absolutely adore him, I love him. But I'm a lesbian. I've been with girls, had relationships with girls and I'm unable to be in...
A. 9 May 2010: Well why do anything just continue as you are? Its decision time and I feek you are asking me to comfirm your sexuality, I cannot do that, only you? Youu must face some facts as well what ever he does that is for him to decide, why us he not fi... (read in full...)
Parent's have gone too far
Q. Hello, I posted on here a few times about a breakup but now I have another problem, my parents. I’m sorry this is long. They are very young and very strict. They have always made me feel horrible about any decision I have made in my life ...
A. 9 May 2010: The only thing I can say that will not seem that helpful is to be patient as the issue will pass! That is a fact and a process that occurs within our lives and heads all the time. We continually consider what is jappening to us. In 2-3 weeks this ... (read in full...)
Which ex to choose, ..the cheater, or the emotionally closed one?
Q. I was dating this guy for 1.5 yrs.He was caring, sexy, respectful, educated. The problem was that he was against commited relationships. He assured me that he wasn't dating anyone else and he wasn't interested in doing so. But he couldn't call me ...
A. 8 May 2010: I did not come on here to be nice. I cannot believe the mess your life is in (that is not helpful) but you have at least 2 kids with two fathers and now you want another guy in your life?
Is it not time that you grew up and sorted out your and... (read in full...)
IM troubles
Q. I'm in my late twenties. I run my IM while at work, it's OK with my work provided I get my work done. I usually keep my window minimized to my system tray. Occasionally I notice I have a message, pop open the window, respond, and go back to work. ...
A. 8 May 2010: Tell the big jesse to get lost. Clearly he is possessive jealous and immature for his age! I am not sure that you should not be looking for a more meaningful relationship?
Before you react to this just think are you really content with nhim?... (read in full...)
Parent's have gone too far
Q. Hello, I posted on here a few times about a breakup but now I have another problem, my parents. I’m sorry this is long. They are very young and very strict. They have always made me feel horrible about any decision I have made in my life ...
A. 8 May 2010: Well dear jenny this is a touch awkward in that if they finance you I fear you are trapped. There actions are bad and I think that you are very upset by all mof this which does not come across in your text .
What I find strange is that you come... (read in full...)
Does he want just a bit of fun or me?
Q. *OP's own title* i have been married for four years to a wonderfull man but these past four months i have been having an affair with a man i see at work everyday. when it started we both agreed it was just a bit of fun, but just recently i cant get ...
A. 6 May 2010: What is it you are doing? You are getting into a terrible mess that is all I can see happening?
You must sort out yourself first!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going to end things with me
Q. Well, I recently noticed a change in my boyfriend's attitude. He stopped putting hearts at the end of every goodnight, he stopped saying cute things, and he stopped holding my hand in school and outside of school. He came to my house today and ...
A. 6 May 2010: Go and find someone better loooking and nicer. Put this down to experience and remember his good points as a basis for your next b/f? Tell your Mom as well, have a good cry we all do it whatever age we are, tell your Mom and cry with her because... (read in full...)
Somethng has changed between us -- something is lacking
Q. I really want to work on my sexual relationship with my partner of 2 years. I love him deeply but I feel a lot is lacking in the sexual side of our relationship. After the initial 'honeymoon' phase, he began rejecting my advances and then I became...
A. 6 May 2010: Poor Betty this has the makings of a mess and I loved your pun 'glue' quite! There is a lot wrong in your relationship so soon I fear and I will not have you losing confidence over this as you attractive and intelligent, caring and loyal otherw... (read in full...)
Is he into me or my body?
Q. Hi people !!!! Ok one quick question. How can u tell if a 16 yr old guy is into u or ur body ?? how can u tell if ur a "mess around" or something serious?? how can u tell if he likes u or not?? plz help on these questions and thanks so much ...
A. 6 May 2010: Slow down here take your time and do not expect to much anyway? You can only find out about him as and when or if a relationship develops. Do not go throwing yourself at him and just remember that if he has dated before the personmost likely to ... (read in full...)
He never shows it
Q. Hi, My boyfriend and i started dating 3 days ago. He tells me that he likes me a lot, but NEVER EVER shows it. We're in jr. high, so when we're at school he acts like we're just friends. He doesn't walk with me or hold my hand, or anything, he's alw...
A. 6 May 2010: Calm down young lady! Three days he hardly knows you yet nor unless he is a mind reader can he know what you are comfortable with in the manner he acts toward you? Just slow down and wait then maybe a little prompt?... (read in full...)
He wants to go to Amsterdam with his mates yet we've never been on holiday!
Q. my boyfriend of three years blurted out after being asked a week ago "I've been asked to go to Amsterdam for three days" i asked why he has only just told me this and he replied he didnt know how i would act. He has not had a job for ages and can ...
A. 4 May 2010: Tell him not to bother to come back and find someone that you rely on!... (read in full...)
I'm interested in my husbands sexual interests but he hides them from me
Q. I have two kids, so I'm always tired or busy and my husband works 8 hours a day. It seems like we can only have sex when the kids are a sleep. If we don't have sex almost everyday than he'll watch porn when I go to bed or if he gets off work early ...
A. 4 May 2010: Firstly give some thought to what you want not worry about his wishes all the time. You are not a machine and things need to be opened up to discussion otherwise what steos may he take next?
He will eventually have to curtail his porn a sthe kid... (read in full...)
I feel like she's trying to tell me who I can talk to, what should I do?
Q. *all names in this post are made up. Hiya I really need some help. I lots of friends but 3 very close friends. Chloe, Aimee and Stacie.* Recently Chloe and Stacie had a bit of a fall out and now there is alot of tention and awkwardness betw...
A. 2 May 2010: Then you must tell her this as you should not be expected to make choices. You really need to make it clear that you are not prepared to compromise or choose.
You have been very mature over this and you will find lots of things happen like thi... (read in full...)
He goes back and forth between me and my ex and I'm very confused!
Q. need advice please help. I came out of a 3 year relationship and he wasnt very nice i started goin out with friends enjoying myself when i met this lad we hit it off an was txting all the time meeting up he had just come out of a relationship to and ...
A. 2 May 2010: This is going nowehere and it is tim e to move and find someone who will appreciate a proper relationship with you!... (read in full...)
I've had enough and I'm ready to leave!
Q. I want to leave my husband but not sure when and how to go about doing it.....he has not changed his ways when it comes to the put downs the criticism etc.. he complains when I don't cook and when I do its crappy.....mind you we have a 2 yr old and ...
A. 2 May 2010: Look up where you can get some counselling from for free. That is a good start as you sound sure that you want to split. He sounds like a waste of space I fear. Discuss it with friends and relatives in confidence as it is important to prepare the ... (read in full...)
I've been labelled a tease because I won't sleep with him!
Q. I am talking to this guy i really like, he is technically my first everything! (Besides when i was younger like 10-12 messing around with my older bro's friends going to third base (oral sex) ditching 1st). I am now 26. He is what i want to ...
A. 2 May 2010: Your old fashioned?
I cannot make out what it is you want out of this guy? You must decide and the fact that you want to play up to a point is very confusing.
I am not sure why you should be suprised at his actions, you seem to have done eve... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about not using a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfeiend had sex last night first time, her backseat of her car..no condom..and today we did...i masterbated about an hour n half before she came over, but i washed myself with soap and water before she did so no residue wod be thre.she ...
A. 2 May 2010: Yes! What bits of this are you unaware of - you are not a teenager!... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend tell his parents I am pregnant?
Q. I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has not told his parents that I'm pregnant, whenever I ask him when he is going to tell his parents he always tells me that he will do it soon and its now 3 weeks left until our son comes... Please help don't ...
A. 2 May 2010: Have it out with him today and make clear that if he won't you will?... (read in full...)
I feel used and abused. I thought he was a considerate boy.
Q. I was with my boyfriend for a month and a half, it went so well and everything, he was spoiling me rotten, after a month and a half, I ended it with him because: he started lying to me, not giving me money back which I gave to him, never asked me to ...
A. 1 May 2010: There there? This I fear is what life is all about. You must learn from this for the next time. The plos point is that you are now even more attractive than you were because you are learning things about guys and what a bunch of shits they can ... (read in full...)
Can he really be happy with her?
Q. my friend tony and i have been friends for over 15 years. we have been sexually active once. he was married during that time, and i didn't know. i even asked him and he said no, he wasn't married, even though he was. we were both in the military ...
A. 1 May 2010: No I cannot be rehabilitated and I have nothing to do with you? Get on with your own life and let him sink in his own cesspit?
Your continued interest in him does you no credit what would your partner think if he new you still harboured affectio... (read in full...)
My sister seems to have it all ...
Q. Have you ever been envious of your sister? I am, all the time. She always gets more attention than I, is way prettier and richer than me. Even though she is already 35 and married, every one still adores her youth and beauty. I know I'm being me...
A. 1 May 2010: Well I could only comment if I was to see you, For all I know you are pretty and sexy? There will always be someone better looking, richer, brighter than us? That is a fact of life.
Look in the mirror now and admire that beautiful young la... (read in full...)
When does an age difference become important?
Q. When it comes to dating or falling inlove does age really matter? Would 10 years difference really matter? For example a 20 year old and a 30 year old. That is a 10 year difference so would it matter if the age gap is that big?...
A. 1 May 2010: So your potential b/f is 10 yeasr older than you? It makes no difference at all what makes the differences is what it is you both want from a relationship? Be sure that he does not see a 10 year younger gap as mere street cred for him.
You b... (read in full...)
G/f and I sometimes have uncomfortable quiet spells..is there something wrong with that?
Q. Hey, I've been with my girlfriend for just under four months now and everything is great, in general. We are pretty much always on the same wavelength and we're not totally obsessed with each other, both lead our separate lives and because of t...
A. 30 April 2010: Yes I think you are. You must accept that it is cracy to always be talking and not quiet at times. Try to be comfortable saying nothing and maybe lisson a bit more?... (read in full...)
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