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writes:Is it possible to be in love with someone who has been dead 67 years? I have recently seen a picture of someone who died at the age of 18 during the holocaust and ive found myself pining for him. i cant seem to let him go. what is this? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 Still, seeing as you don't personally know this man you can only say you love the idea you have of him. You love such an idea of a man that you have in your mind. But you do not love him.. how could you as you do not know him. You might have loved him if you knew him, but that's another story. Then again you might not have, maybe Anne Frank was just polite and he wasn't like that at all. You don't know.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 I had a crush on Thomas Jefferson when I was 14...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI didn't intend on speaking who it was, but it is Peter van Pels who was in hiding with Anne Frank. I know which camp he died in, and what happened to him. I know about his character for Anne's point of view but admit, that would prove very little, I thought I would just post this for Anon who wondered who it was.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 February 2012):
It's called a fascination. It's not love. How can it possibly be love when the person is dead and you have no idea who they were. You might as well claim to be in love with your own shadow as such.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 At least yours was a real person. When I was 13, I would fall in love with people in books. Mr. Darcy from Pride and Prejudice. Or Archie Goodwin, Nero Wolfe's assistant ( well, I still think now that Archie is very sexy : ).
Some things , people, places, images call to our spirit and resonate with it. Our spirit has longings and cravings for something that's difficult to put in words, because it goes beyond the wants and needs we can assess and recognize through logic, reason, and experience . It's like when you find yourself in a new place and feel a wave of joy just for being there, or when you hear a music that touches you and makes you cry and you don't even know why.
Time has no ending and no beginning, matter dies but spirit does not. Maybe at some timeless point in space his spirit, or soul, or essence, or what you want to call it, has come across and met yours, and now you meet again :)
but if this is too New Agey or mumbo jumbo for you , ... let's just say that you've seen in this dead man's eyes something that has stirred up in you powerful ,dormient emotions. He's been a catalyst to awaken certain feelings.
Difficult to explain,.. and actually I am doing a very bad job of it !,... but if you think about it, this is the principle behind artistic creations. Particuarly in painting. It's this longing, this burning desire, to have close to you , to reproduce, to manifest at a physical level something that can't be reached by physical means, but that for you is REAL and present same as any other physical object...
Are you artistically inclined by any chance ?
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (13 February 2012):
 What it is? You have connected to someone who's story is very compelling. You have understood, in a way that few have, that this chap was a very real, living person. That's to your credit -- that he's real to you.
Why not learn more about him? See if you can track him down. Find out his name. Find out what camp he was in, what happened to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2012): I'm curious.Could i ask where you saw this photo?.What did this person look like?
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